Post # 1
SO, is it best for the bride to have a set choice of a bridesmaid (BM) gown style or a few gown styles to let your BMsto choose what works best for them (style and choice of say 3 colors). I want to be PC, yet also keep a lid on shopping, choicesand potential confusion. What has worked for all of you future brides?
Post # 3
Here’s what I did,
I went into the bridal salon alone and picked all the dresses I liked. The I tried them on. Most of my bridesmaids have the same body type that I do (although some are taller, some slimmer) many have larger boobs which is always my concern when shopping. When I found one I loved, I sent them a picture. They loved it. Set a date for everyone to meet to try on and leave deposits and they did. I have a large bp though, 8 girls so I was not leaving it to chance.
My advice, pick 1 or 2 options, in an affordable range and let the know what you’ve picked. As long as they have time to pay, I don’t thinkit’s an issue. All of my girls paid the entire balance at the first try-on. I didn’t even know.
Post # 4
What kind of look do you like? I prefer the maids in all the same dress. Some brides like the mix-n-match appearance. There is no right answer there.
My advice with whatever you do is to be aware of body type and price. If you choose one dress for all of them, I think they should get at least a little input, even if it’s just an email with a link.
In general, they will want to do what you want. Sometimes they want you to say “Do this fabric, this color, this length.” Having been in 4 weddings before mine, I preferred to be told to go order a certain dress. It took the guess work out of it and honestly, I didn’t care what it looked like at all.
A lot of girls go into being a bmaid with low expectations for the dress, honestly.
Post # 5
Thanks for the input ladies! My gut has told me to be more assertive and now I know that it will actually be more helpful to my 6 attendants. I think I’ll take my Maid/Matron of Honor shopping to narrow things down….I never got a choice as a former bridesmaid and hmmmmm all was okay.
Post # 6
Be more assertive, for sure. I asked opinions of my girls, and it was a bad idea because my sister was unhappy when I didn’t go with her suggestions in the end because the other girls weren’t into it. Just choose one that is affordable and realistic and they’ll suck it up. 🙂
Post # 7
I found a dress that another Bridesmaid or Best Man helped me picked out. I fell in love with the style. its really close to my dress style and the color blew me away. I was lucky that all of my BMs liked the dress. well one really didnt but i told her she didnt have to be in my wedding if she didnt want too.
Post # 8
I picked five that were similiar and that I liked, and let them pick from those. I ended up with them in three different dresses, which was fine with me. I really don’t have the time to argue with them because one doesn’t like the same dress that everyone else does.
Post # 9
As a Bridesmaid or Best Man (and a girl with distinctive taste), I say give them some options. I hate to buy something I won’t wear again, plus I don’t want to buy something unflattering for my body type. Unless your girls have similar figures, nothing will be universally flattering. Maybe go with the same color, but give them several style options?