Post # 1
My wedding is simple. Very simple. I was in fact going to do my own hair until my mother insisted on paying for me to have it done. I told my bridesmaids they could wear their hair however they wanted, thinking this was a simple request. I don’t have the budget to pay for all of their hair to be done professionaly (I didn’t even have it for my own). I thought they’d appreciate the freedom, but it turns out the lack of hair professionals is an issue.
Two of the three do not want to do their own hair, they want an updo and my salon (the only one I trust) will only handle my and my mother’s hair. (It’s a husband and wife team with two chairs.) My bridesmaids have looked into other local salons — they are not from the area. We don’t know the salons and most seem really overpriced.
I’m not really sure how to solve this. Any suggestions? My plan was to be an easygoing bride and somehow that turned into a burden for my bridesmaids. I can file this under stress I don’t need.
Post # 3
Are there any beauty schools in your area? Their students might be convinced to help you at a much smaller cost so they can get the experience. My sister gets her hair cut and colored at one, and while it sometimes takes awhile (I would schedule the appt. hours before they need to be anywhere), they always do a great job.
Post # 4
Why can’t they just pay for their own hair if they want an updo? If they want to get their hair done you should be required to pay. If you were saying that they HAD to have updo’s then that would be a different story.
Post # 5
I can’t imagine other salons would do a bad job, even if you don’t know much about them. Since you told your bridesmaids from the start that it was their choice, if they want to go spend the money at the other salons that’s their prerogative – you shouldn’t stress about this, it’s not like you promised them anything! Good luck!
Post # 6
I know this is a bit of added stress for you, but especially if they are not from the area, you should try to call around, read Yelp reviews, ask people at work, etc. about reputable hairstylists for them. I would at least do that and give them several options. I don’t think you’re expected to pay or anything, but if they are driving/flying in for your wedding, then it would be great if you could help them out that way and I’m sure they would appreciate it. Not that they can’t do it themselves, but still…
You could also ask a friend in town to help with this task as it really doesn’t require YOU to do it … I have a lot of people offering to help with my wedding. I’ve offered to help with many many weddings and I think that the brides just end up feeling bad about asking people. Well, here’s a great opportunity to take that coworker or friend’s wife up on their offer! 🙂 Good luck.
Post # 7
maybe you can ask the salon where you are getting your hair done for a recommendation for where your girls can go? I agree that yelp is a good place to look. Honestly, a lot of updos at salons are overpriced so if they really want to get their done done professionally, they might need to deal with that. If you have any guests who are from the area, maybe you c ould contact them for s uggestions too.
Post # 8
I dont know why this became your issue? Even when brides have requested our hair to be professionally done, it has always been the bridesmaids’ responsibility to pay for that, as well as any other expenses of being a bridesmaid.
Updo’s are expensive, in our area, they’re about $90. The only other option is maybe to just pay to get their hair styled nicely, not necessarily an updo then?? This shouldn’t be your stress, it’s up to them to figure out how and where they want to get their hair done.
Post # 9
Why can’t they get there hair done at your salon before you and your mom?
Post # 10
My vote is to have their hair done at your salon after you and your mom. You’re likely to be getting your hair done pretty early, right? Are you concerned that there won’t be time after you for them to get their hair done?
We had 3 stylists do 10 people’s hair the morning of my wedding…
Post # 11
Thanks for all your advice. I was just surprised at how something that was *supposed* to be easy, has turned into an issue.
They are paying for it. My salon won’t do any one else because of timing and other conflicts on that Saturday morning. They’re coming up in a couple of weeks and I think we’re going to check out a couple — we’ve narrowed it down to two salons via Yelp and other review sites. I have a friend who offered to help, but I don’t know. They seem set on a salon. It’s more me feeling guilty. In this corner of NY, an updo starts at $100.