MemberWhether you offer to pay or not, you have no legitimate discretion over your friends’ hair or makeup. They are people, not props.
I’m sure they can figure it out on their own.
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Does this mean I cant monitor how many toilet breaks they have or how long they brush their teeth for in the morning either? Cause I mean I’m paying for the venue so I should kind of have control over that too?
MemberThanks to everyone else who has given actual logical responses, I’ll have a look on ebay and etsy and see whats out there!
Going to have loads of spare time to look now that I dont need to worry about organising a minute by minute schedule for my robot bridesmaids. Blown my mind that girls in their late 20s-30s have free will. Praise be.
MemberSarcasm aside, no matter what you’ve known other brides to do, and no matter how little you control them in other ways, it’s still improper etiquette to dictate hair. Contrary to your experience, I’ve never seen any bride who did this.
MemberMemberMemberMaybe it’s a UK/US divide because the etiquette seems very different from what I’ve read on here so far (ie bridesmaids buy their own dresses in US) but I thought I would be safe asking what hairstyle works well with a certain style of dress.
MemberI’ve been a bridesmaid many, many, many times. The only time I remember with anything less than warm fuzzy feelings and joy is the time the bride told me I had to wear my hair a certain way with an ornament she provided. That’s what Bees are trying to share here. It doesn’t matter if you are paying if you are making someone you supposedly care about feel uncomfortable. Geez. Make the hair pieces optional. Hair styles go with facial shapes and hair length and individual comfort more than they go with dresses.
MemberThis thread has me scratching my head I still don’t see what the big deal is here. Maybe let’s all accept it could be cultural differences and what is and isn’t acceptable in certain circles, instead of accusing OP of improper etiquette. In my circle, this is perfectly reasonable— I would never pitch a fit about my hair on someone else’s special day it’s so not about me and I’m happy to do it.