(Closed) Bridesmaid hasn’t confirm yet 6 weeks before wedding

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

the title of your post makes it seem like she hasn’t yet confirmed she will be a bridesmaid.

yeah, you are being sensitive. you know she’s coming- she’s in the wedding party! a little annoying that she hasn’t RSVPed yet, but she hasn’t even past the deadline.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Wait, so she hasn’t confirmed that she’s going to the wedding, or that she’s going to remain a bridesmaid? 

Probably the only way to get an answer from her is to call and ask her point blank for a yes or no.  It seems like there may be some assumptions floating around that need to be cleared up.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

OMG I would be really upset.  I think you just need to call her and ask or email/text her and give her a deadline.  I found that actually deadline (i.e. I need to know by Monday) work best.  

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

oh sorry- i misunderstood then

Post # 8
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196 posts
Blushing bee

@CndBride:

You should definitely just call her and ask her if you want an answer (or an explanation as to why she might have to delay confirmation).  There could be a ton of reasons why she hasn’t gotten to you yet.

Post # 9
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1489 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You should call her and ask her if she will be there or not…..

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wait… you can’t accept the bridesmaid role and then say I’ll see if I can make it.  You can’t be a long distance bridesmaid.  This sounds a little backwards to me.  But yeah, call her and get a definite answer.  No more waiting.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Bottom line is communication! That’s what needed to happen in the first place. If she accepted the bridesmaid role but told you she didn’t know if she could make it, you probably should have pointed this out a long time ago.

If someone accepts the position, its not a matter of hoping they can make it… they should just make it. If she was unsure in the first place she should have declined.

I would certainly be worried but you should have been communicating with her a long time ago.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

That’s so bizarre! You can’t really be a bridesmaid if you aren’t physically present for the wedding. How strange! I’d call her up and flat-out ask her whether or not she’s committed to attending your wedding and being in the bridal party. 

Post # 15
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@CndBride: That’s terrific that you two worked it out.  Please let me know what you come up with for streaming.  That would be great to do…

Post # 16
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have two bridesmaids that haven’t confirmed through my RSVP I mailed to them and our due date is tomorrow, granted, I had dinner with all my girls tonight to discuss the bach party, and I know they are coming, One is my sister, the other is FIs. Kinda funny in my situation, but I’m sorry about yours 🙁 that sucks!

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