- 4 years ago
Help! My fiancé proposed on New Year’s right before a friend’s party so all of our friends were asking to be bridesmaids. This was hard because I can’t have everyone and it took me so off guard that people would even ask that question. Anyway long story short I finally decided who to make my bridesmaids and then one of my friends moved across the country. We were very close in high school but grew apart in the past year before she deiced to move. When she moved she made sure she told me she would make it work and save all her vacation days to come home for the bridal party events. I love her as a friend but don’t think its fair to her as it will be really expensive. Also I don’t think it’s fair that the rest of the bridal party will have to cover her expenses until she comes home or mails them a check. Money is not the main concern here im more worried she will lose her new job asking off that much in one year. I offered her a reading in the wedding instead and she still wants to be a bridesmaid. I really hate hurting anyone’s feelings; but if I add her to the wedding again I would have 8 bridesmaids. Most of the bridal party I have now does not like this friend which is another issue I am having. What would you all do in this situation? I am so torn.