(Closed) Bridesmaid help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2402 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If neither of you are close to any of them, I would suggest going with uneven numbers over choosing between them. 

Post # 3
3791 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If you aren’t close, don’t go with your fiance’s step sisters.  Do you have any friends who you were considering asking to be bridesmaids, but then for some reason you didn’t ask them?  I had two other girls I wanted to be bridesmaids, but ended up wanting to just go with 3 bridesmaids so I asked the other two to be personal attendants — which was something they LOVED doing so it worked out great.  If you have another friend or relative you are close to, ask them.  If not, just have an uneven number of bridesmaids/groomsmen.

Post # 4
9913 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s hard to ask one out of three, and I think asking one later than the rest can be a really tough situation.  People don’t want to feel like your backup plan. 

I’d find other ways to incorporate your husband’s step-sisters — like readers or some other position of honor. 

Post # 5
1742 posts
Bumble bee

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afgirl1111:  Your bridal party sides don’t need to be even, so if you are not particularly close to any of these women, I would not ask them, but if you do want to involve them, perhaps invite them to read or something along those lines.


Post # 6
30392 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You only have to read a few threads here to learn that it is not a great idea to ask people to whom you are not close to be in the bridal party. Given that you are not close to them, I would not ask any of them. Uneven wedding parties are fine. your photographer will know how to pose the whole group.

Post # 9
8408 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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afgirl1111: Just have uneven sides.

  • Nobody is going to be counting your attendants.
  • If you replace the friend who couldn’t make it, you’re saying she was just a body in a dress and anyone else will do
  • Anyone you ask at this point will know they’re second choice and you’re just using them to fill a spot in your pictures
  • Asking 1 out of 3 sisters when you’re equally close (or distant) with all of them, is a recipe for long-term resentment with your new in-laws
Post # 11
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I ended up having uneven numbers. It totally wasn’t a big deal.

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