(Closed) Bridesmaid help!!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

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futuremrsstemper :  Have you talked to Fiance about how many people he/she wants on their side? I could have chosen 12 people if my Fiance wanted it, but knew I had to have 4 for sure, and let Fiance dcitate what he was comfortable with in that range to make my decision (spoiler alert: it was 4 lol).

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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futuremrsstemper :  Have ten bridesmaids. I am having ten. I have three sisters and my fiance sister. I also have two cousins, 1 niece, 1 aunt and two friends I didnt want to go without on my wedding day. I heard of someone else having 14 who had sorority sisters. Honestly there are no rules dont be embarrassed that you want a large bridal party. I honestly wish I had about 6-8 but I didnt want to exclude anyone I am really close to. This actually ends up being better for the bridesmaids because if they throw you a shower it costs less between more people. If you have just your sister all the stuff is on her.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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futuremrsstemper :  I think you should let the nature of your relationship with them dictate who should be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Ten girls can be hard to manage if not everyone is on board, but if everyone is excited to pitch in pp is right, they will have less cost per person for your shower, etc. you can still invite everyone shopping with you (if your local bridal shops allow that many guests) and of course they can get ready with you. Maybe you should read some things that other bees have posted about how larger bridal parties have added stress to their wedding planning to see the potential downside of it. 

Take some time to think about it and talk to your sister too!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My Bridal party has 10 girls 6 guys. It does not have to be even. I have two girls per guy. Even if its off. A couple girls can walk by them-selves its not a big deal. It is reality not a lifetime movie lol.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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futuremrsstemper :  I only had my Maid/Matron of Honor, I have about 5 women I could have asked, but I looked at their current situation. For instance, I have a close friend who works full time, working towards her degree part time, and has a school age son; therefore, I thought adding another thing to her list would be overwhelming. Even with her getting a dress and showing up, that was still another thing to add to her plate. 

Instead I asked her to get dressed with me along with my mom and a few other close friends. I ordered mimosas, light breakfast food, and we had a lot of fun without having to add pressure to anyone. 

My friend group(s) are women who are mid 30’s to early 40’s with demanding jobs, spouses/SOs, children, etc. IMO, being a Bridesmaid or Best Man isn’t exciting to me at this point in my life. 

I agree with a PP, do research on the pros and cons of a large bridal party. You may be surprised by some of the things you read. I guess it works for some and not others. 

Just keep in mind, everyone is not in to the “wedding” thing. Some close friends genuinely would rather be a guest. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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southernbride16 :  I think you have a great point. You could even evaluate the ten girls and think about if they even want to be bridesmaids. I think you could even ask them if they would want to be one and give them an out. Like say my feelings wont be hurt if you dont feel like it. I just want you to know your special to me etc. If they dont want to do it you could always include them in another way like this girl said like having them get ready with you or taking a special photo etc.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think 10 bridesmaids is a bit much. If you just had your sister stand up with you you could still have all your friends get ready with you if you wanted, and reserve a special row for them at the ceremony. But you wouldn’t have coordinate 10 dresses, get 10 bouquets,  etc.

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