Post # 1
Hello Bees! I am stuck between a rock and a hardplace. I have already picked out a Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man. I want to ask 1 more Bridesmaid or Best Man. The problem is i want to ask FI’s sister to be in the wedding. She has yet to congratulate us on the engagement and she is a full time college student with no means of any income. i am asking my BM’s to pay for their dresses. she can not afford to pay for her dress or anything else that is a Bridesmaid or Best Man duty. Fiance said she can just get the parents to pay for it. i informed him that since it wasnt their responsibilty that they shouldnt pay for it, since they are footing the bill for the rehearsal dinner. i dont know what to do. we only want to have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and 3 groomsman, and I have another girlfriend that i would love to have in the wedding. Please any advice would be great.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
I think that if you have a good relationship with the Future Sister-In-Law, you should ask her. I’m sure she’ll figure something out to pay for the dress, but don’t put too much pressure on her for other things.
I think it’s a nice gesture, and if she doesnt have the money, she can always decline.
Post # 4
I’m with Ms. Socks, you should ask her and trust she will be able to find a way to pay for the dress. I’m sure she will appreciate the gesture. Then you can also include your other friend in a different way.
Post # 5
I would ask your Future Sister-In-Law. She’s going to be family. My Future Sister-In-Law is in school and I assume that her parents are going to pay for the dress… I don’t think it’s a big deal.
Post # 6
I agree with everyone else – ask her and let her decide. We’re having my Future Sister-In-Law stand up too and when we talked about dresses, she told me that her mother is paying for her dress b/c she can’t afford to. I figure it’s not my business who pays for it – she’s got it covered.
Post # 7
I definitely agree. You never know, she may say no, but it’s the thought that counts and is a very nice gesture to ask.