(Closed) Bridesmaid Help-Should I change the length of the dress?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Dress drama. What would you do? Please see below.
    Leave the dresses as they are, it's your wedding. : (28 votes)
    74 %
    Give her the option to be an honorary maid/usher. : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Change the length of just her dress, who cares. : (7 votes)
    18 %
    Change the length of all the dresses. : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    3886 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    if she’s really not comfortable with showing too much leg, then she’ll be visibly uncomfortable and maybe even unhappy all day. You’ll remember that (and guests will notice that) far more than a couple extra inches of hemline. 

    You’ve got a lot of options ranging from mismatched dresses to buying longer dresses and hemming them at different lengths for different girls; don’t take the “my way or the highway” option because that’s got the most chances to end up with a surly bridesmaid, or worse, a broken friendship.

    Post # 4
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I don’t feel like you’re asking too much.  Below the knee is not a short dress.  A tea length dress should be just fine for her.  I think you should sit down with her and ask her why she won’t compromise for your wedding.  You’re giving her a lot of options and flexibility.  I think too different lengths will look off.

    Post # 5
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    6212 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    I originally wanted short dresses, but I went with long because one of my BMs has a skin problem on her legs and doesn’t know if she will feel comfortable wearing a short dress on the day of- we won’t be able to predict the severity ahead of time. She usually wears maxi dresses and leggings, so I just changed all the dresses to long. Now everyone, including me, is happy

    Post # 6
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    506 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @hfwildcat:  I think you are being more than fair with them. It doesn’t sound like she is even giving the shorter dresses a chance. In my opinion she is being a wee bit selfish. Unless its for a religious reason I don’t see why she can’t wear a tea length dress. That doesn’t show that much skin.

    Post # 7
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    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I would feel uncomfortable with a dress that was that short. P.S., to a PP who said that below the knee was not a short dress… yes it is to some people. 

     

    What if she tried a dress that was just  below the knee? Would that be too long for you?

    Post # 8
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I voted change the length of just her dress, meaning have hers hemmed to just below her knee.

    ETA: If her reasons are religious, I would have her wear tights/leggings.

    Post # 11
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    3039 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It shouldn’t be an issue at all, but she’s creating one. I think you have to ask her why she’s not willing to follow the few simple guidelines that you’ve provided. If she has a good explanation, well then you can work from there. If she’s just being difficult, perhaps you should reconsider having her in the wedding party. She’s supposed to be in it to support you, not work against you.

    Post # 14
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    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @missmorganista:  I would feel uncomfortable with a dress that was that short. P.S., to a PP who said that below the knee was not a short dress… yes it is to some people. 

     

    What if she tried a dress that was just  below the knee? Would that be too long for you?



    I don’t understand your post?  I said that below the knee wasn’t that short.  How is this different?

    Post # 15
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    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    @Mars62312:  I read it wrong! 😀 I read that above the knee wasn’t short? 

    Post # 16
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    4336 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    You obviously know better than I how she will react to this, but I voted to let her wear a long dress if she wants… I would tell her she can wear the long dress, but emphasize the fact that she will be the ONLY one with a long dress…. chances are, looking like a “misfit” that way will be more embarrasing for her than showing 10 inches of leg, and hopefully she will realize that! But on the other hand, who cares if her dress is longer than the others?

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