(Closed) Bridesmaid here- bride DOESN'T want me to lose weight.. (Poll)

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you reccommend

    Do the program anyway, it is YOUR health

    Hold off for 10 months, risk losing momentum

  • Post # 2
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    What?? Why would someone even ask you to delay such a thing, and why would you consider it? Just tailor the darn dress. 🙂

    Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

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    doubledouble08 :  no, do what’s right for your health. Your dress can always be tailored, that would be the last thing I’d worry about.

    Congrats on your weight loss so far!

    Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I’m with PP – WAT? Do your wonderful healthy thing and keep on goin’ girl! Don’t loose that motivation! Seamstresses can be magicians with those things and honestly, you’d need to have it altered anyways!

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    She’s being ridiculous. The dress can be tailored.

    Do what you want with your body. 

    Post # 6
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I think you know the answer. Absolutely keep it up, good for you!

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee

    Your friend is a major jerk for not supporting you here. Why does she care so damn much if your dress doesn’t fit– is she paying for the tailoring? If not, she’s super out of line. You’re talking about a dress vs. your health. I would much, much rather join the boot camp, lose a ton of weight, feel fabulous, and then pay the tailoring costs. Personally, if I didn’t take the class, I’d still try to lose weight but would wonder at the end of 12 weeks if I’d feel so much healthier than I did at that moment if I had taken the class– the “what if” would drive me nuts. Take the class!!

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Um, this is probably the stupidest request. No, it’s your body and your health. You do what you want to do. She is in no position to dictate anything about your appearance or weight.

    That being said, the dress working for you is your responsibility at this point. So reassure the bride that you will take care of it. Get it altered, buy a used one from eBay, whatever, so that she doesn’t have to worry about it. It shouldn’t be her concern. 

    Congrats on losing so much weight in a healthy way! That’s awesome. 

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

    The dress can be altered, do what you need to do.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Just get the dress tailored! Your health is more important than one day of her life. Yes, weddings are important, but they don’t overtake your goals to improve your health/making a lifestyle change by doing this bootcamp. 

    Good luck and good for you!

    Post # 11
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Why on earth would she want you to wait to lose weight? Your dress can definitely be altered- just be aware that if it’s a very intricate dress and it needs to be taken in a lot it may be a little more costly. But other than that, I can’t think of any reason not to go for it. 

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I think your friend is jealous, tbh.  I would never discourage a friend from losing weight if thats what she wanted.  You will have to tailor the dress if its too small, assure her that you will do so, and continue to do what you’d like with your body.

    Post # 14
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I also really struggle with my weight. When you lose momentum with your weight lose it can be really hard to get back as weight loss takes some pretty big lifestyle changes that really take awhile to make into habits. Your friend is being shitty and unbelievably selfish to ask you to not make your health a #1 priority. The dress can be altered.

    You do what you want with YOUR body. Your friend is 100% out of line.

    And congrats on your weight loss so far!

     

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    I find it selfish and ridiculous of your friend to worry MORE about a dress than what makes YOU feel better about yourself and your health.  The dress can always be taken in.  As a Bride, I am actually cringing at the thought of saying such a thing to any of my bridesmaids.

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