Me me me!!!!
My maid of honour bailed on being in our wedding party and bailed on my life an hour before the rehearsal (Thursday before the Saturday wedding)
The day of was so amazing and she is now forgotten and as far as I’m concerned made a decision that was going to happen eventually, it’s just too bad weddings can bring out the worst in people.
Long version 🙂
Two weeks before she bailed on us using her Dad’s large beautiful mansion house (it was empty and for sale for months, that is why she offered it months before) for my bachelorette and staying at the night before the wedding/getting ready the day of. She just said she couldn’t do any of that and bailed, no replacement, no offer to do something different, so my BM’s planned something, fine. She is from the other side of the country and was coming in for her Dad’s (2nd) wedding the weekend before our wedding and wanted to know if I needed her for anything so she could plan to go visit other friends and family. Which of course, is fine….rather than saying if I could have her for a day, I didn’t want to keep her from family especially her short time here, so I said I didn’t need her. This was a week prior to the wedding? Anyways, she took it as me not wanting her to be involved, and honestly after bailing on the bachelorette thing I really did question how much she wanted to be there. We’ve been friends for a long time and I picked her because of that, but our connectivity has really lacked in recent years and true colours came out with this wedding stuff. So anwyays. Wednesday pre-wedding comes and she offers to pick me and a Bridesmaid or Best Man up to go to dinner/”bachelorette” thing for me and texts at 5:11 she would be at my house to pick us up in 30 minutes. At 6:15 she still wasn’t there and with resvervations for 6:30 we got my Future Brother-In-Law to drive us. She showed up late and pissed I left without her, wtf was I supposed to do, I had Mom’s, FSIL’s, grandmother’s at this, I can’t be late. End of night she says “call me later” and leaves. She’s usually a social butterfly and did nothing to talk with anyone. It was just so weird, so not her. She calls the next day and asks why I didn’t call her, I said sorry but because we had a house full of family it wasn’t exactly appropriate. She then asks if I can bring her Bridesmaid or Best Man dress to the rehearsal, I was like…..why? You can get it when you come after the rehearsal (dinner/party was at our house) She said “well I would have to know there was something happening after the rehearsal to know I was coming over” I at that point hit a breaking point and was like “MOH, on Monday you asked me what you could bring to tonight (originally we were going to do potluck, decided last minute to have it catered) and now you’re acting like you didn’t know anything was going on, stop, please!!!!) Phone call dwindled and I said I would see her at the venue for rehearsal. Few hours goes by, our house is full of people, rehearsal is at 6pm….it’s now about 5pm. I receive a 3 part text message and says someone else should be Maid/Matron of Honor and good luck at the wedding and all the best in the future.
I decided not to deal with it rehearsal night with all the fam and so I said let’s have fun and deal with it tomorrow. I call her first thing, leave a 2+ min voicemail saying there’s been some miscommunications obviously, I want you at the wedding, let’s figure this out, blah blah…..no word from her that day or since then. I was deleted from fb, bbm, everywhere possible by 9am the next day. Cut my losses, move on and enjoy this so so so special day.
So yah…. that was my horror story….that honestly worked out for the best. I didn’t miss her, my BM’s did a surprise speech and the day way perfect -everything happens for a reason.