Post # 1
I’m starting bm dress shopping tomorrow. I wish we had it in our budget to buy all our girls dresses but we really don’t. I know it’s tradition and I’ve spent 200+ on dresses for friends/family weddings but it feels odd to be the one asking. How much do you think is too much to ask your BMs to spend?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
Honestly, it really depends on your BMs and how much they can afford. I know for me personally, anything over $200 is pushing it. But, I’m a college student, so I may not be the best one to answer, hehe.
Post # 4
Most people begin to cringe at $150, but I feel that anything over $200 will cause some of my girls to back out.
Post # 5
I’m also in college, so I’m not sure if I’m the best to answer, but I wouldn’t pay over $150. Especially since I wouldn’t wear most bridesmaids dresses again. I have nowhere to wear a satin dress!
Post # 6
I was recently a Bridesmaid or Best Man and spent $250 on the dress and another $20 on having it fitted (ie – 20 bucks to have the straps taken up). Once you add on shoes, jewellery, hair and make-up it can become a very costly affair. I think if you’re going to ask your girls to spend more than say $100-150 then they should have a very large say in what they’re wearing.
Post # 7
im keeping the cost of my bm’s dress under $200 and if any of my girls need a little bit of help picking up the cost of the dress i plan on helping them with it as much as i can. i do kind of feel bad asking them to buy their dresses but theres no way we could afford to buy everyones dresses and tux rentals.
Post # 8
I think it does really depend on your bridesmaids. My bm’s dresses are under $200 but I was trying to keep it under $150. When I mentioned to each of them in talking the prices I was coming across none of them seemed to care – even about the one that was over $200! But, we booked our wedding nearly a year ago, so the way just about all of them put it to me was that they had enough time to save up the money. They were all very sweet and just wanted me to be happy AND they wanted a pretty dress. 🙂 The only one that said the dresses were expensive was my sister the Maid/Matron of Honor. Apparently she paid $100 for another wedding. But she can afford it, so I’m not worried about it.
Maybe you can talk to each one and ask them what their budgets allow? Or get some prices on what you like and run it by them and see what they say?
Post # 9
I am planning to keep it between $150-$200. No matter what state of life you’re in, you don’t want to burden your BMs with a very costly dress when they will also be buying you shower presents, wedding presents, attending your bacherlorette party, etc.
It is all really up to what your BMs are comfortable with, though!
Post # 10
i would be (and have been) upset if someone asks me to spend over $150. it’s always nice if it’s under that though!
Post # 11
I was hoping between $200 and $300 but the ones we like are upward to $400… so i guess we wil have to see!
Post # 12
all of my Bridesmaid or Best Man are single moms and I am trying to keep the price at $100 or less. I want to make it as easy on them as possible because they are already flying to Vegas to stand at the wedding with me.
Post # 13
I’ve paid as much as $250 and I am having major guilt about having the maids spend anything. I hate askng them to do it, even though I’ve done it for many of them. I refuse to go voer $250 for a bmaid dress for them and I’d prefer it to be $200 or less.
Post # 14
I would lean toward not going over $150. The most expensive bridesmaid dress I ever had to buy was $125. It required $50 worth of alterations, a $40 undergarment and $50 dyed-to-match shoes. Plus $70 for an up-do to match the rest of the girls. On top of that, it was a completely useless ball gown that I would never have picked out myself, let alone worn again. And I was a broke-ass college student. I love my friend, but she asked me to waste an incredible amount of money just to show her my support.
I’ve since learned to speak up when the cost is looking like it’s too high–my cousin originally wanted us to shell out $350 for bridesmaid dresses and I told her flat-out I’d have to step down if that were the case. She switched to $70 nordstrom dresses and they were great. I’ve even worn it again since!
Post # 15
I think it’s all relative and depends on your friends and their current financial situations. I guess if I were to have to throw out a number, I’d say I wouldn’t want to go too much over $200. I was glad that none of my gals had to spend more than $75 on her dress (JCrew Final Sale, yo!).
Post # 16
I think it depends on your BMs. I know that me, personally, I will not ask them to pay over $150. I’m also a college student and I would feel bad asking them to pay any more than that. I am hoping to keep their whole outfit under $200 (with shoes and jewelry).