MemberI’m a bridesmaid in a Christian wedding and I’m feeling a bit anxious as to what to expect…I don’t have any religious background and I’m nervous that I’ll look like a fool up there.
Do you ladies have any advice or hints as to what I may expect??
thank you!
MemberWell I’ve never been to a non-religois wedding so I can’t compare, but they walk in, have some readings, hymns, sermon, some do unity candles or the like, pray, and walk out, some do receiving lines following. Usually about 30 minutes long for the ceremony
MemberWhat kind of Christian? If is Catholic there may be more involved.
Member@Tallulah_: Most weddings I have been to and my own wedding, there was nothing to it. Walk down the aisle, stand there, and then exit the church. Unless it’s a certain religion or culture where you will need to say responses or anything like that, there’s usually not too much participation required. At my wedding everyone said the Lord’s prayer, but you could just bow your head in respect, and I don;t think anyone would call you out on not knowing it. I don;t think theres anything to be worried about, but you could ask the bride since its weighing on your mind a bit.
MemberThank you for the speedy replies! I’m feeling intimidated because I am the only one at the ceremony who is not from their church 😛 Hopefully it will all come together ok!
I know she’s not Catholic but besides that I just know that she is a Christian and when i asked her before what to expect she said there would be songs and prayers…so i suppose I will just follow along with the rest of the people!
MemberI’ve never been to a religious wedding that had hymns? Typically, you’ll just walk in and stand there (and try not to look bored…I’ve seen so many bridesmaids who look bored) for ~30 minutes. No big deal!
MemberYou will be just fine. I understand how stressful it can be. I used to date someone who was Catholic, and I always felt out of place at his church… all the standing, kneeling, repeating. I couldn’t keep up. I am Lutheran, and most other Christian churches are the same (singing, prayers, speeches). It’ll probably be over before you know it.
MemberIt should be easy to follow the lead of the other guests. Everyone will be focused on the bride and groom so it shouldn’t matter much:). I’m an atheist and scientist and was asked to read some Bible story that was super…religious/creationism-y/awkward for me and I really didn’t know how to pronounce a few words in it but no one noticed. It seemed weird they asked me to read something like that at a wedding tho but they are family lol. Hopefully you don’t have to do something like that which puts you on the spot haha but it should be pretty choreographed ahead of time for you anyways :). Good luck! The church my cousin’s was held at had a rehearsal dinner and they said exactly what will happen. “Okay they are going to come in then you stand here and read and then you follow this person ahead of you then sit down when the guy starts speaking.”
MemberMember@Tallulah_: Just found this thread! Once the bride has finalised the order of service, why don’t you ask her for a copy and then the ladies on the bee can explain each part of the service to you, so that you feel more secure about what to do etc?
But I agree… it should be a piece of cake!
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