(Closed) Bridesmaid in a quandry…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

If you are close to the brides (which for a bunch of reasons, you obviously are), I would bring it up to them. Tell them you’re nervous about finances and looking and feeling your best, but their wedding day is really important to you and you want to know what they think as the bride. The bride can let the MOHs know to not go over a certain $ limit or reserve the right to only approve a dress that everyone can manage. Or, depending on the bride, she can offer to pay a portion of your dress cost, or ask you to step down.

Hopefully, if these friends are as good as they seem, they will want to find a good solution for you that doesn’t involve stepping down. Personally, I would hate to learn belatedly that my Bridesmaid or Best Man felt terrible in her dress or couldn’t afford the dress in the first place. I would want to accommodate her in those situations, but I can’t if I don’t know about any of it!

Post # 4
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

yep I would talk to the bride. My bms weren’t quiet about not wanting strapless dresses. I also kept the dress at about $100, although $150 seems reasonable enough.

Post # 5
192 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would maybe talk to the bride, but I would also send some suggestions to the MOH’s and let them know what your budget and fears are. Send some pictures of dresses that you like, or would feel more comfortable in. I know if it were me as Maid/Matron of Honor, I would love to hear suggestions from the others and what their budgets were. It would be a huge help in trying to decide on the dress. I wouldn’t want that sole responsibilty. But I do think you need to let the MOH’s know because there are things like the shower/bach party and you will have to go to/purchase 2 of each.

I would let the bride know, that way she is not surprised and if you have issues with the Maid/Matron of Honor then the bride is aware of the situation too, but I would try to deal mostly with the Maid/Matron of Honor.

Hope this Helps

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