- Ms. Drgnfly
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Have you ever had a potential bridesmaid tell you she didn’t want to be in your wedding because your bridesmaid invitation wasn’t “personal” enough for her?
I got engaged in Setpember of 2010 while my fiance was clinging to life in the hospital… (I literally had to read his lips to get the “I want to Marry You”)
I immediately started spreading the news. First person I called was my Maid/Matron of Honor…she lives in another state or it would have been a face to face… We agreed back in high school that we’d have the place in each others weddings, so I expected the answer I got from her…a resounding squeel of excitement and a yes yes yes!
A week or so later, another friend…super close to both me and Maid/Matron of Honor, (we were both brdiesmaids in her wedding), came to my town on business. I took her to lunch with another one of my maids…I bought her lunch and asked her in person at that time…and she also accepted.
Life threw a million curveballs at my fiance an I over the next year…and wedding plans had to be postponed.
Now, 3 years after the initial proposal and requests to be bridesmaids, wedding plans are back in full swing…with the wedding 4 months from now.
I had been working on some really cute ways of “re-asking” my maids to be maids…but time was running out. The dresses need to be order by the middle of next month to get here in time…so rather than rack my brains over a bridesmaid invitation, I created a private group on Facebook, explained to the girls how much the mean to me and that my day wouldn’t be perfect with out them.
I knew 2 of them were actually going to be no’s this time, because one moved half way across the country, and the other just had a baby…but the third no…the one I asked over lunch crushed me!
We have been friends for 20 years…we had all talked about being in each others weddings since we were 14…she accepted my initial in person request…but now, has declined to be a bridesmaid because my facebook group wasn’t “personal” enough… She still wants to come to the wedding as a guest, but says that she deserved better when it comes to my invitation to be a bridesmaid…
How in the world am I supposed to handle this???