Post # 1
Hello new here
just got engaged last sunday may 4 while on a mini vacation in va beach 🙂 no date set but, we have our wedding party decided they just dont know it yet … I am pretty sure i have cute lil invite ideas for everyone except the bridesmaids … Guys will get these batman invites (fiancé is kinda a man child when it comes to batman but so are pretty much all the groomsmen (brothers)*) … Ring security badge and mission for ring b. Flower box with Pinterest ring pop for flower girl … But cant come up with something for bridesmaids i like yet my maid of honor is my underage little sister so no alcohol based ideas … so show me your invites you sent out or ideas u love!!!
Post # 2
Congratulations! If you haven’t set a date yet, I would hold off on asking any of the wedding party. You only need to read a few of the threads here on WeddingBee to learn that relationships can change over the time period between deciding to get married and actually having the wedding.
Post # 3
LadyPeacockk: I didn’t do invites. What ever happened to just talking to a person and asking them to be in your bridal party? I can guarantee that as exciting and awesome as a bridal party invite seems to you the bride it seems OTT and lame to others including BM’s.
Post # 4
julies1949: thanks for the advice but, the date is in the works only between weekends right now just need to figure which we can book … also, being handmade they wouldn’t be handed out anytime soon until things were set ( also the party is all close family with one close friend since age 10 isn’t any doubt they wont be there) … As I said I am just collecting ideas..
Post # 5
j_jaye: I enjoy hand making things and I can GURANTEE my friends and family would thoroughly enjoy and appreciate the extra effort … everyone has their own way and own relationship dynamics … I know my bridesmaids well one being my sister and others friends and family who I am apart of their upcoming weddings as well and have known for more years than I have fingers… I was just collecting ideas and giving people a chance to show off their unique efforts
But, thanks for your advice
Best to you and your way of wedding planning
Post # 6
j_jaye: I put together little boxes with handmade necklaces, mini bottles of champagne, and some other goodies along with a heartfelt note explaining what each girl meant to me. They were thrilled to receive them. Why would someone think it’s “lame” to receive something handmade and carefully put together from a good friend/relative? Maybe your friends are just party poopers.
Post # 7
LadyPeacockk: I also <3 to recieve handmade stuff! i definitly think it’s nice to recieve something handmade and considerate. Go for it! I like kb7’s idea… or some other ideas:
– mini scrapbook with a couple of pictures of you and the bm?
– photoframe with a picture of you and the bm?
– or a photo of the two of you printed as a puzzle to put together
Post # 8
I didn’t ask anyone until I had a date set, but that is definitely up to you!
I only had 2 people to ask – my sister (MOH) and my Future Sister-In-Law (bridesmaid). I bought 2 different cards from an etsy shop that asked them. I included the card in a box with a tiny bottle of champagne, a lip gloss, and some nail polish (that was close to the blue I am using).
Both loved getting them, especially my Future Sister-In-Law (who didn’t think she’d be asked). So, it worked out well. I love doing stuff like that though!
I’ve been a bridesmaid in a friends wedding and she just asked. I’m a personal attendent for a friend getting married on May 30, and she asked with a piece of pumpkin bread!
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center
Congratulations! I don’t have any suggestions for the invites, but I live in Va Beach so I figured I would stop by and say congrats. 😛 Happy wedding planning!
Post # 10
Just meet with each person and ask them privately. If you give them these big get ups, it screams Pinterest and puts pressure on the person to say yes, even if you don’t mean to pressure them.
Post # 11
I waited about 2 months to ask my girls, even though they’re all people I’ve been friends with for more than 10 years, but that’s just me. I sent them each one wine glass with a wine charm in the form of their names attached, along with a mini bottle of wine and a handwritten letter.
Also, I love to receive the invites. None of my BMs live in the same city as me, and no one that I’ve been a bridesmaid for lives here either, so talking in person isn’t possible. Having them send me something is the next best thing to in person because it’s something that they made themselves/wrote themselves. Then, it’s followed up with a phone call.
Post # 12
Thank you all for your advice … just so its clear again it’s not like I am sending anything out tomorrow lol I was just looking for ideas (i think its a nice small personal touch and i am going to do them even at the risk of bring corny) I am not sending or giving anything till there is a 100% sure date we have it down to a couple weekends just need to check some availabilities….
As for the ideas thank you all so much some of them i was considering before I am thinking combining some of your ideas such as a nice personal card or small picture frame with a coordinating nail polish or such …
Post # 13
As long as you know your friends would like this gesture (if I were asked in this way it would make me terrified about the bride’s future expectations and I would decline to be a bridesmaid, but that is only me, and I am sure you wouldn’t do this if you thought it would make your friends uncomfortable!), I think it sounds thoughtful for your friends. I would definitely present the items privately.
Good luck and congrats on your engagement! 🙂
Post # 14
I just made a card and wrote them a handwritten, heartfelt note. I had thought that I would get them each a little gift, but changed my mind because I am a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding this year and she gave us these big gift boxes filled with a DVD, candle, ringpop and something else specific to the ladies and, while cute, I’ve moved the box 100 times since I’ve received it. It was very thoughtful, but I have no use for the box, the candle, the DVD (which I already owned) and the nightlight she gave me, on top of this massive decorative box. I sound horrible, I know, but it made me realize that over the top and elaborate does not always a good gift make. Instead, I opted for a simple card with a note. I thanked each lady for being a part of my day, etc. Everyone LOVED THEM! For all of the single ladies, their cards read SINGLE MEN? DANCING?? AN OPEN BAR??? and for all of the taken ladies theirs read FREE CAKE? DANCING?? AN OPEN BAR???
Post # 15
Kacie209: Ask me with a piece of pumpkin bread and I will surely say yes! How deliciously clever 🙂