Post # 1
So, I am a pretty laid back bride, especially when it comes to my bridesmaids. I gave them a color palette to choose from and am letting them get whatever dress they want, letting them pick their shoes/accessories, not making them get their hair/makeup done if they don’t want to, etc.
My bridesmaids have been really appreciative, and I haven’t even bothered them about finding their dresses and we are 2 months away from the wedding!
But I have one bridesmaid who is a super high anxiety woman, and she is making me crazy! She received her invite and proceeded to text me that we needed to talk ASAP. When we did talk she wanted timeline details so she could plan when she was getting her hair done. When I couldn’t giver her specifics (because my hair dresser is being awful, and I am in the process of rescheduling with someone else) she just seemed really frustrated with me! When I told her just to go ahead and schedule her appointment any time before the ceremony since she seems to be really anxious, she got upset with me!
I just need to vent here! When I hung up, I actually burst into tears for the first time in long time, just because she made me so anxious about everything I still need to plan!
Post # 3
HUGS!!!! Don’t stress, some people are just not as laid back and need order and schedules. I understand both sides of this for sure!!
The good thing is that at least she is organized enough and wanting to be ready and organized for when you need her on your day rather than showing up late or at the last minute not having her hair done and screwing the timeline up. If I were you, I would suggest that she talk to her hairdresser about how long whatever she is having done will take and work it back from there. If your ceremony is for example at 2pm and you want to get there together and take some photos ahead of time, tell her to be ready and meeting up with you by 1pm – or earlier if you want to hang out and relax together. Add time for driving to the ceremony too. It’s all about working backwards from the times you are required to do something or be somewhere.
Post # 4
Oh, I’m sure she means no real harm she is just probably uber excited and a planner type person. Maybe you can have a bridal party meeting to go over some of the details and timeline.
Post # 5
try not to let it bother you. i know it’s nerve wracking but maybe she doesn’t realize exactly how much stress she’s putting on you? you’re much nicer to your girls than i am with mine. lol! i picked the dress for them and then had to hound them to get it ordered in time. i hope things get better for you!!!! sending hugs your way!!!
Post # 6
Ha! Sounds like my cousin. Just don’t let her stress you. From the looks of it your wedding day is pretty soon. She’s an adult. She can definitely plan her hair appointment without nagging you.