- 7 years ago
Ok so I have recently asked one of my friends we will call her (S) to be my bridesmaid because my sister can’t make it to the wedding (she lives in England).
My friend (S) has accepted to be a bridesmaid even though it is a bit late in the game and all is good in the world.
My sister is planning my bridal shower and was confirming a date with (S). (S) told my sister to invite her mother and all of her friends because I was in an investment club with all of them for 1 year. (I resigned in September).
My sister texts back to (S) that her mother and friends are not invited to the wedding because we were paying for everything ourselves and can’t budget extra people in, just close family and friends. I actually told the investment club that they were NOT invited to the wedding in December because of this very reason and they all seemed to understand.
Well my friend (S) texted me yesterday asking if her mother was invited because she has been a “good friend” if you want to call it that for a year and wanted to make sure it wasn’t an “oversite”. (S) said that her mother had mentioned to her just the other day that she wanted to go to the wedding and was asking her if she was invited to the wedding! WTF!!!! I specifically told them IN PERSON that I was unable to invite them.
Anyway, now I feel obligated to invite her mother to our wedding. I know it’s MY wedding and I invite who I want there, but it’s an awkward situation.
Fast foward to October at a mutual friends wedding. My FH and I are acquaitances with a couple that we really like but aren’t extremely close to. We connected with them again at this wedding, we really enjoyed hanging with them that night and had a blast!. I’m trying to become better friends with them and I really really enjoy hanging out with them whenever we do hang with them. While at this wedding we were saying that we all need to hang out more often and have. I have told my FH that I would love for them to come to the wedding because they are SO much fun and I would like to become better friends with them. My FH has known them for years, but not too close so it wouldn’t be a complete shocker if we invited them.
Well (S) caught wind of this because my sister invited this girl we will call (C) to the bridal shower because she assumed she was invited to the wedding. (S) told my sister that we have more of a relationship with her mother than this couple!
I would much rather have this new couple that we love to hang out with and is in our age range rather than invite her almost 60 year old mother to the wedding because she forces her mother on all of her friends because her mother is her “best friend”.
(S) always invites us to family functions and whenever she has some kind of party or whatever her mother and her mothers friends are always there! this girl parties with her mother! So she is assuming that I want to party with her too. I don’t know what to do. I really don’t want to be guilted in to inviting someone because I have been invited to their functions here and there (don’t really ever go).
Now I do like her mother as a person and I like her mother’s friends, but I don’t consider them so close that I want them at my wedding!
How do I tell (S) that I would rather invite this other couple than her mother? I’m at a loss. ugh… So this is the part of wedding planning that I REALLY dislike. I knew we would end up cutting people and it would get a bit ugly. 🙁