I was just in a wedding where three out of four bridesmaids were pregnant, ranging from the sister of the groom at 7 months to me at 3.5 months. The Maid/Matron of Honor was 4.5 months but carrying pretty large already. Everyone but the groom’s sister wore a regular dress, and her maternity dress was essentially the same as ours but in chiffon… we wore Jim Hjelm empire waisted dresses, style JH5772.
Honestly, you look at the pictures and you can barely tell that one of us was wearing a different dress. The color and the styling was essentially the same, it was just the fabric that was different and it was cut to pouf in front rather than be snug. The MOH and I had the normal dress in a couple sizes larger than we usually wear… her belly filled hers out, mine was barely there, and the larger sizing higher up (cough) had been filled in by pregnancy growth as well. 🙂
The only thing that made the girl in the maternity dress stand out was that she sat down for the ceremony in a chair that was lined up with where the rest of us stood. No big deal. And you know, I thought it was pretty cute that so many of us were pregnant. When they did the grand entrance at the reception, the groom’s dad announced us coming in as "Groomsman John Smith and Bridesmaid Mary Jones… and also Baby Jones!!" Of course he was more excited than a DJ would be because one of the babies-on-board was his first grandchild, but still. All the guests loved it.
And my dear, dear friend the bride and her husband were definitely the stars of the show, despite the burgeoning bellies all around them. They were just so radiant and full of love and smiles and happy jitters all day long. You couldn’t help looking at them, they were so madly in love with each other and so happy to be married.
All that to say — you CAN have a pregnant bridesmaid, in a maternity dress even, and not have it steal your glory or attention. In fact, I find that the most glorious, stunning brides are the ones who are not worrying about having their glory stolen at all, and who are concerned about the comfort and happiness of their bridal party and guests. You might want, for your own sake, to reconsider your attitude about your wedding day… it is tempting to want to be the center of attention, but that will happen naturally. Don’t force it or put others down to achieve it because you’ll just make yourself look bad.
Since I can’t share pics of my friend’s wedding, I’d say go look at Mrs. Cupcake’s pics, as she had a very very pregnant bridesmaid, and I think her dress was almost exactly the same as the other girls. And when you go shopping for the dresses, talk to the salon consultant and ask to see styles that come in maternity versions, because they really can be so so similar to the normally cut ones.