(Closed) bridesmaid issue

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Not the exact same problem, but I have a friend who is causing me some serious regret for asking to be a bridesmaid.

You really see peoples true sides when you are the bride. It’s a huge eye opener and you really want to just cut them out, but you seem to be a lot like me – you have a hard time just dropping people and you are very forgiving and understanding.

I think you should just do what I’m doing – try and not spend a lot of time with her – if she’s not going to attend your things, then just breathe, smile, and think of all of the TRUE friends who are in it with you. It’s so hard to think of your other bridesmaids who are planning, helping, and excited when you have one idiot overshadowing it all.

After the wedding, don’t spend so much time with her. She sounds psychotic for all of this copying. Jeepers. That’s just strange and unhealthy. But until the wedding, just try and ignore her I know, easier said than done hey).

Post # 5
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@worriedconfusedbride:  Well, one of my BM’s removed herself thank god. She was terrible and awful and I really saw who she is.

The second one is a good friend but I have come to realize that she is very uncomfortable with me getting married. She drunk texted me once in the middle of the night, she said very hurtful things to me and said that we are no longer on the same life page because I have a good job, I’m getting married, all of my ducks are lined up, yet she is still working her dead end job, finishing school, and single.

I don’t see it like this at all. I think she’s going to meet someone amazing and have a great job when she grads. She feels like she’s stuck in a rut. And since then I can see how our friendship has changed, she isn’t very involved like the other girls (all of my other maids are married save one who has been with her boyfriend for 4 years).

I see her posting things on this one girl we used to work with’s facebook (she never even liked her before), she used to post on mine like that. Now she doesn’t. She makes plans with me, and then she bails at the last minute. I don’t know what’s up with this, like you’re the one making the plans why do you do that? I have a busy life too, but I will always, always make time for my friends and getting married does not change that. It seems like she’s always grumpy with me and I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, I’m sucking up to her hardcore so that she feels good about herself, but I don’t know. Maybe she’s just stressed out, thats why I don’t want to kick her out. I know she has good intentions and I think she is excited deep down but she’s just concerned about everything else right now.

The other one though, good riddance. Jeppers!!  

How would one even go about kicking someone out of their bridal party? Sounds scary lol

Post # 6
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142 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I know exactly how you feel, when I first got with Fiance his sister was lesbian living with her girlfriend, he moved in with me, she split with her girl and got a boyfriend (I don’t think she was ever really gay just doing it for attention) I fell pregnant told her at 3 months, 2 months later she was pregnant, got engaged so did she, booked a church/reception venue told her which ones since she was looking she booked both of mine 2 days later right down too the same menu for the year before. We found a new venue, but had too postpone when my FI’s mother died unexpectedly just before. our wedding is now in October and she had her coil out today too try for another baby (which if her plan to get pregnant immediately works will be due in October)

She’s supposed to be bridesmaid aswell. Lucky for you, yours is not family however if you uninvite her do you think she’d be petty enough to book hers for the same day and invite your mutual friends?

Post # 9
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733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@worriedconfusedbride:  true that!! 

Your friend seems like quite the interesting character though. People that oblivious are very hard to be around!!

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