- 6 years ago
With only a Maid/Matron of Honor and 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man you’d think all the drama would be avoided but sadly no. My girls both loved the dress we looked at (I let them pick as long as the colour and length was the same and they both agreed on the same dress) and we are ready to order it. In order to place the order I need their dress size and of course my Bridesmaid or Best Man did not provide me her size. I advised her if you don’t want me to know, please go ahead and place the order yourself, but she wanted me to do it. Time is ticking and these dresses take up to 12 weeks to come in and after they come in they may need some alterations – suffice to say I want to ensure that there is no last minute running around worrying about when the dress is coming or if alterations will be done.
Also my Maid/Matron of Honor is organizing my bridal shower and has asked my Bridesmaid or Best Man to help her out – to select some fun games and ideas for prizes and centrepieces however, the Bridesmaid or Best Man has responded with some outrageous game ideas that would be very costly and require alot of supplies (and therefore $) My Maid/Matron of Honor figured that she would figure it out herself as it would just be easier than trying to ask her for things. She also demanded that my Maid/Matron of Honor invite 30 guests (my Bridesmaid or Best Man is my fiancee’s sister) from my fiancees side and advised that she is not willing to pitch in more than $50 for this event (she emailed this amount she was going to contribute to my Maid/Matron of Honor and CC’d me). My Maid/Matron of Honor was floored by her demands to invite all those people and came to me advising me that my Bridesmaid or Best Man wanted to invite all these guests and what my thoughts were.
From the start I advised I wanted a small shower like 15-20 people so I advised my Maid/Matron of Honor of the guest list I wanted. When I read the email about her pitching in $50 I was a little saddened, considering the fact she has a very well paying job and is living at home rent free – my Maid/Matron of Honor is in school part time but lives at home too. My Maid/Matron of Honor has advised that its not an issue for the shower and she is glad to do it for me, but a part of me is really sad and I feel terrible at this point because she is going to foot the bill herself (she won’t let me pay – I bought some things for prizes for the shower and she refused to take them saying I shouldn’t have to pay) My Bridesmaid or Best Man is also a really great baker and my Maid/Matron of Honor asked her if she could help bake some cookies for the shower and help with the set up of the venue – both of which are relatively cheap – she has yet to respond to her about this.
Oh and my Bridesmaid or Best Man also thought that I should be responsible for her dress, shoes, hair, make up and accessories as well and that she should come with me where I go for hair and make up – which I had to gently advise her that unfortunately I cannot afford to pay for all those things for both ladies and myself. I advised both ladies from the start that hair and make up could be done whereever they wish. Funny thing is the BM;s best friend is a hairstylist and has done her hair a number of times in past. I also advised her that places like MAC allow you to buy the value of the service in product instead of paying for the service.
Bees I’m really stuck here- My BM is my fiancees sister so I wanted to include her however I did expect that she would put some effort into this and before everyone jumps on me saying that the bridal party doesn’t have to do anything everyone knows that being in a bridal party requires some cost and time. At this time all she really has to dish out for the wedding is $200 – $100 for the dress, $50 for make up (if she gets it done if not its free) and $50 for the shower – everyhting else she has – shoes a hair stylist and jewlery. This girl doesn’t even seem to want to help set up the venue that she will be at anyways which isn’t going to cost her a dime, other than time
Help!!!! Any suggstions?