- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
So I am going to try and make this as short as possible. My Maid/Matron of Honor is throwing me a bachlerette party in a few weeks. She planned to have a house party with typical bachelorette games, poss stripers, food etc. Then for the after party she is having a limo pick us up to take us out on the town!
All that sounds great to me but one of my bridesmaids who we have been calling, texting, emailing, and fb messaging for weeks to rsvp bc we need to know how many ppl for the limo, who I finally got ahold of yesterday is presenting a bit of an issue.
She bacially said that she may not be able to get off work for the whole day but could poss take a half day but she doesnt know yet. The issue is, if she takes a half day, (She lives 5 hrs away) would completly miss the party part at the house and “maybe” could make it on time for the limo, but there is a good chance she wont. She has a history of being late. (The limo is expensive and wont be able to wait.) Also as my Maid/Matron of Honor and a few friend pointed out, Her coming late would also interrupt the party activities.
1) The party will be loud and it will be difficult to hear our phones. Also there will be dirnking so we may not be paying attention as much as usual.
2) Everyone is suppose to dress up. I doubt she will drive 5 hrs in a dress so she will not only show up late, but also need to change and prob shower. (Im not kidding) Its not even my house so it is kinda awkward bc the host of the house doesnt know my bridesmaid.
3) If she shows up after the limo arrives we cant wait on her. It is not fair to all my friends paying for the limo for the hold up bc u rent it by the hour. So I dont know what she will do if this happens.
I told her I would not be mad at all if she cant make it. But my Maid/Matron of Honor would really prefer everyone to be semi on time. She didnt seem so to understand this and asked if my Maid/Matron of Honor could give her a call. My Maid/Matron of Honor has been trying to call and she isnt picking up.
It is very frusterating bc she wont return our calls and I am really scared she will come late and miss the limo. I really dont wanna fight about this or mess up a friendship but I feel like I dont know what to do. My Maid/Matron of Honor needs a final head count for the limo soon and my bridesmaid has had 2 months to take off work. Everyone is telling me to tell her that if she cant make it semi on time it may be better not to come. I dont know if tha is rude or not? Also my Maid/Matron of Honor needs the final head count by tonight and she said if my bridesmaid doesnt rsvp to her by tonight she is not including her in the activities. BtW the offical rsvp date was last week in which everoyne else repsonded but this bridesmaid.
Sorry for the long rant. I am just a bit upset and do not wanna mess up a friendship and am unsure of the right way to handle this. Any suggestions?