(Closed) Bridesmaid Issue…Please Help!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You poor thing! That’s so tough… I am going through the same thing too, at least in general – my FI’s and I’s friends are all still living the single lifestyle, whereas we are looking forward to  settling down and not going out much.

Do you think she’s pushing back because you are the only one in her life who’s confronting her about her drinking problem?

Did you have to beg her to help with wedding stuff or was it her idea? I’m trying to gauge how supportive she is of your wedding… She kind of has 2 big problems going on: one is that she’s drinking out of control (I mean, drunk driving- that is really bad), and the other that she’s not really supporting you if she’s mocking you on Facebook and procrastinating on buying a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, etc.

I 100% agree with you about not ending a friendship during wedding planning, it’s such a sad reason for a friendship to end because of a wedding. But it sounds like your  friendship is ending not because you’re being a bridezilla who’s too demanding of her, but more because your life is changing and you are moving into the next phase of life. Can you distance yourself from her a little bit during the remainder of wedding planning and let the friendship drift apart after the wedding? That’s what I would do to minimize drama.

Post # 5
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1217 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@future_mrs_sommer:  Sure no problem!! I hate drama, it’s so awful to go through this with other big things going on in your life. Ok, that is a good thing that she volunteered to help with wedding stuff (although sounds a little selfish that she planned on drinking! – I guess she doesn’t understand how drinking and wedding projects don’t mix). If you decide to distance yourself from her, and she calls you a bad friend for not spending enough time with her, just explain to her that wedding and family stuff is keeping you really busy! Most people who are married or have been involved in weddings understand that  the last few months are the busiest. So I think that excuse is fine!! Also, I dunno about you but since we’re *almost* date twins – we have most of the planning done and now are working on projects (favors, decorations, etc)., and while we spend a lot of time sitting in front of the TV working on projects, when we’re not doing that we like to take relaxing date nights. My Fiance spend more time together than ever… And I think that’s also a good excuse, if you’re spending extra time with your Fiance.

But I totally don’t think you’re being a bad friend! Major life events can definitely cause your social circle to change, and some friendships drift apart, especially if you are losing interest in going out, etc. It would be so much worse if you weren’t feeling it but she was clinging to you – but if she’s mocking you on Facebook, then it sounds like she is feeling like your friendship is on the rocks as well. Lucky you still have your Fiance – I am so sad that a lot of my old friendships are wearing out, but I am so so so glad to have my Fiance 🙂

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