(Closed) Bridesmaid issues

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@myluverbuny:  If you have already asked them, I wouldn’t cut anyone. Just have a large bridal party. You picked these people for a reason and they haven’t done anything to deserve being cut. You could easily lose friends over something as silly as the number of people in your pictures.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

There’s really no way to un-ask people without them being hurt. Put yourself in their shoes. How would you feel if you were asked to be in a wedding, then you were told that the bride decided to shrink the bridal party and you didn’t make the cut?

It may look a little unbalanced to have a large wedding party, but so what. You will still have a beautiful wedding surrounded by friends and family.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was thinking about cutting down on my bridal party, too. I have a total of 7:6 bridesmaids and a Maid/Matron of Honor. But in the end, I decided it was best to leave everyone in the bridal party. I already asked them, and I would feel bad cutting them out. Plus, I would invite them to the wedding anyways, so why not have them in the bridal party and help out with the wedding?

So I dont think I answered your question lol. I guess my suggestion is to not cut them? But if you do, take them out to dinner, happy hour, or something else (don’t do it over the phone) and explain the situation. Be honest, but at the same time, show that your decision was really really REALLY hard but thoughtful.

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

There is no way to cut anyone without being rude. On your wedding day, you are going to be focused on getting married and will not think twice about having a large wedding party. If it’s a small ceremony maybe consider having only the Maid/Matron of Honor and best man stand with you…but otherwise, I’m personally against cutting people and damaging relationships just for the visual aspects of a wedding. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Have they bought dresses? I would say cut down to just moh & best man and explain that you downsized and want to downsize the bridal party. Hopefully they will understand. I don’t think it’s terrible. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@mamadingdong:  I second what you said. Simply put there’s no nice way to say it without hurt feelings. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I say just explain what you explained to us. I think it makes total sense. It’s not like you’re replacing them or anything. Maybe it is best if you don’t have any bridal party. 

Post # 14
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46 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m having the same problem, both because of wedding size and personal issues with one of them (not just me, my bridal party and both my family and FH’s family are having an issue with her). I’ve gotten both sides:

1) If you feel strongly about it, just do it. You don’t want to look back in pictures and regret someone being there. It is YOUR day. (I think this sounds harsh! But then again, I have friends who look back at their wedding pictures and just regret people standing up there with them.)

2) Suck it up. You asked them for a reason. Unless they want to back out, just let them do it. Especially if you want them to be guests anyway.

Good luck!! Hope you figure it out. It’s stressful, huh?! 🙁

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