(Closed) Bridesmaid issues

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Friendships have rough patches sometimes. If you are back to being best friends I see nothing wrong with asking her to be a bridesmaid. They are supposed to be your choice, not your Fiance (that is one thing I think each person has the right to choose on their own).

Post # 4
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8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t understand why your fiance doesn’t want her in the wedding, you guys were best friends for all of high school.  If you’ve already mended things with her, I’d think she’d still be one of your best friends.  Most importantly, if you want her standing with you on your big day, you should have her there with you.

Post # 5
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4520 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@busybride215:  Have her in your wedding and try to explain to Fiance that you have a long history with her, and that she’s still very dear to you despite your rough patch (which is totally normal).

Post # 6
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

By personal attendant, do you mean a bridesmaid? I just ask because I’m not a fan of giving ‘jobs’ to people that aren’t members of the bridal party unless you know they’ll be happy with it, because a lot of people would rather just be a guest than a guest with jobs to do.

To be honest, I think it’s fine to have her as a bridesmaid in your wedding, sure you guys may have lost touch for two years, but that can happen with friends. Also, how much were you trying to talk with her during those two years?

Post # 7
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1685 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Maybe have her do a reading?  I, personally, would follow my fiance’s advice (he is an excellent judge of character).  My bridal party has women that are important to both of us, not just me.

Post # 10
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8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@busybride215:  Ah, I see.  I don’t know about kicking his sister out (even though she did invite herself into your wedding party), I think it’d really rub him the wrong way to give his little sis the boot for someone he doesn’t want there.  Are having even sides really important to the both of you?

Post # 13
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8453 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@busybride215:  It sounds like he’s just worried about the drama that it might bring.  Only you know if that will be an issue or not, but I’m guessing it shouldn’t be since you two are friends again.  Maybe arrange a double date with the four of you before the wedding and see how it goes?  It might warm him up to the idea of having her there.

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