(Closed) Bridesmaid Issues (Would This Upset You?)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

sorry, not sure why that is upsetting.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper

I dunno, trying on clothes is kind of one of those girly things. I knew a lot of girls in college who went out to try on dresses just for fun. I would guess your friend is just sharing your joy empathetically. Try not to begrudge her that!

That said, even though it wouldn’t bug me, I can see why it would bug some women I know. Maybe you can just handle it indirectly by responding with something like, “Haha, that would be kind of crazy! I mean, what if you look hotter than me? Jk – it means a lot to know I’ll have your undivided attention. :)”

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

It would upset me. She sounds like she must not be happy if all the attention in the room isn’t on her. I guess it wouldn’t be so bad since you’re essentially just going to make her happy anyway, but it would piss me off too. 😛

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I wouldn’t be upset.  The day is still about you, you’re the one seriously searching for a gown. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It definitely wouldn’t upset me.  She might be half-joking to test the waters, but I’m sure if you say you’d rather she didn’t she won’t. 

“Everybody” wants to try on pretty dreses.  It’s a fun experience for the most part.  I went with a bridesmaid who doesn’t have a boyfriend and another that’s already married, and both found at least one dress that they were like ooooh, I wish I could try this on. 

I’m sure she’d rather save her first experience when she’s actually trying them on for her own wedding, and is mostly kidding.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

This wouldn’t upset me (but not much does) trying on dresses is fun so I understand the urge.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t be upset because I’d just assume she meant that the dresses will all be so pretty that any girl would want to try them. But, I kind of wonder if perhaps there is a back story to this that might lead you to be upset…for example, does she always have to be in the spotlight? Has she been very jealous of your wedding? If not, it was likely an innocent comment.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wouldn’t be upset. You have obviously gone “all about you” wedding dress shopping with the moms and sister, so why would her trying on a beautiful dress and fantasizing an issue?

Honestly, watching someone else try on dresses while you sit around gets old pretty fast.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

It would upset me if she wanted to spend the whole time trying on dresses and was totally not helping me in deciding on a dress. If she went and was excited for me, watched me try on dresses, and was generally helpful but also wanted to try on a few just for fun? I wouldn’t care at all! Sounds like a really fun day 🙂 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think she’s just trying to share in your excitement as opposed to taking it away from you… but she might be doing it in a ham-fisted way. It reads as an indirect compliment actually, because it sounds like she’s jokingly expressing jealousy that you get to try on beautiful dresses that she would love to try on. I seriously doubt she’s truly thinking of trying them on…

I’m with Julialimei though–is there some history there that would cause you to take offense?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It wouldn’t upset me at all, but I’m not easily upset about much of anything, but I can understand why you wouldn’t want her to. But it couldn’t hurt? Especially since you already did the formal shopping with your family. You should tell her how you feel, just maybe in a way that won’t make her feel bad.

Honestly though, most places don’t want to deal with you if you don’t want to buy a dress–it would be a waste of THEIR time for her to try on gowns she definitely wasn’t going to buy. I’ve actually seen this first hand at a bridal shop.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Um…you’re in a girly store with tons and tons of beautiful dresses. What girl doesn’t want to try them on and play dress up with her friend?

Don’t worry, I’m sure she doesn’t mean to step on your toes. She’s probably just really excited and the right words didn’t come out. Personally, I can understand why you would have appreciated if she kept that comment to herself but so be it. Some people don’t have filters when it comes to comments.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

This would bother me. You are going shopping for your gown, it isn’t a game. If she is worried about being bored, then she shouldn’t come. Although, I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  It is doubtful that the salepeople will let her try on a gown, because it would be a waste of their time.

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