(Closed) Bridesmaid Issues/Concerns…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
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3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

My advice: let them wear shoes they are comfortable in. Such a small thing that you are way over thinking. They can find similar shoes in whatever heel they feel comfortable in since you’re going to decorate them. 

Stop gossiping about your friends & then other people will like them. 

Post # 5
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I don’t know how much you’re willing to spend on the shoes, but BespokeBigDay.co.uk make their shoes in all different heel heights! I ordered mine from them (model called Kitty). I haven’t received them yet though, so can’t give them a review, but they look very good on the webpage.

Post # 6
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1724 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

1. I would let them choose their own shoes. Problem solved.

2. They are adults. Don’t worry about something that hasn’t even happened. They can act mature and get along with each other. Don’t feed into any drama by talking about the others. Since they are the MOHs, they should probably be the ones deciding what to do for showers- not the bride.

Post # 7
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333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Regarding the shoe issue….let your controlling/Bridezilla side go. Why make either of your BMs feel uncomfortable? It’s not hard to find similar white shoes with differing heel lengths. 

Post # 8
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

On the shoes: You should adhere to your bridesmaids’ comfort levels.  Some people like huge heels.  Some people like flats.  I know you said you are OCD about your bridesmaids’ looks, but some people are suuuuuper uncomfortable in heels (or in flats) and if you know your different friends have different shoe preferences, you should allow them to choose their own.

On the friends: These are both grown women who should be able to put aside their differences, and be your bridesmaids.  I would stay out of it.

Post # 9
Hostess
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

As a girl who’s 5’11”, I feel your Bridesmaid or Best Man on wanting to wear shorter heels.

Could you get pumps in all different heel heights and then still bedazzle and decorate them like that? If they are all decorate the same way, the different heel heights won’t be as noticeable.

Post # 10
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4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Regarding the shoes — please let them wear their own choice of shoes.  Nothing is worse than someone forcing you to wear shoes that you are uncomfortable in.  It could make the day so miserable for people.  Forget the heel height — many people need different widths, toe types, strappy/non strappy, etc.  Agree with PP that you should let your Bridezilla side go on this — absolutely NO ONE will know or care what kind of shoes the bridesmaids wear.

I’m actually looking at a picture of my bridesmaids I have in my cube.  All 8 are wearing different types of shoes…I honestly cannot even tell from the photo.

Post # 11
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1733 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would get the girls to go out and purchase inexpensive pumps I don’t think colour matters because you are just covering them up with rhinstones and then all get together and make a girls night of DIY’ng shoes.  

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