Post # 1
I’m torn on what to do about jewelry for my bridesmaids. There is a set of real gemstones that I got on sale at a department store in a color that matches the dress – in a style that would be considered classic, but is not something my BM’s would wear again (they’ve told me when I showed them a picture). Now, I’ve spent a few weeks looking for something else, but am not liking anything else (and nothing else is “matching” the right way in different styles – at least not that I can afford).
Now, I know that since I’m buying the jewelry and giving it as a gift I should give something the girls would like (after all – why give a gift you know the recipient doesn’t want). But on the other hand – I want the jewelry to match and I am the one living with the pictures. Is it wrong to give jewelry I know they don’t like and won’t wear?
Keep in mind I’ve bought the dresses, the shoes, am paying for the jewelry (whatever I end up with), and have also made tote bags that include wraps, purses, make-up, note cards, lotions, and several other items. Can I consider the jewelry part of the “bridesmaid uniform” and the tote bag the gift? Or am I horrible to even consider this?
(And yes – these are the same BM’s I complained about earlier – nothing has changed from that post).
Post # 3
I think that if you’re going to spend a lot of $ on jewelry, which you probably are if the jewelry has genuine gemstones in it, you’re better off buying something cheap if they already acted like they wouldn’t appreciate jewelry. I didn’t see your other post about them being pains in the @sses, but if that’s really how it is going to be, I say get them cheapie sets from Claires or the Icing (or whatever) and don’t waste your $$ on something REALLY nice.
I know you listed that it’s ‘affordable’ but I don’t know if that’s relative….like, affordable for REAL gemstones, or affordable period.
Post # 4
It’s about $50 which is the high end of my budget for jewelry (this is per set). I know they say they are “real” but I am sure they are simulated. Here is a picture of something very similar (though not what I am buying, these are way expensive):
Post # 5
Well, to me, 50.00 is too much to spend on someone who isn’t going to appreciate it. I say get them something cheaper for the jewelry (sounds like you want that control lol) and then something else the ingrates might appreciate, like a gift card. Sorry to hear you’re dealing with diffucult bridesmaids, I’d be so happy to get fancy jewelry, even IF I didn’t think I would wear it again in the near future.
Post # 6
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Well those are lovely; I’m sorry your bridesmaids aren’t being more accomodating and pretending they love it anyway, since you’re not asking them to buy it on their own! I think if your bms are already stressing you out, you should buy them EXACTLY what you want them to wear that you feel you can afford, and don’t worry about if they’ll wear them again. If you’re paying, you can think about your pictures instead. 😉
Post # 7
My gosh, you are one GENEROUS bride! Don’t sweat it anymore. You’ve done enough! Get them what you want them to wear.
Post # 8
Your spending loads of moolah on their get-up and their totes! I’d say grab the jewelry that YOU want them to wear-it’ll be part of their get-up. No question. 🙂
Post # 9
First, I can’t believe how much you’re spending on your girls and how ungrateful they’re being! Fifty is a lot to spend on jewelry, can you maybe enlist their help and see if they can find something they like for around that price, that way they’ll wear it again? I was recently in two weddings where the bride gave us necklaces: the first one was okay and I’ll probably wear it again, but the second set actually gave me a rash on my chest; I wish I would’ve been in the process to help pick out our necklaces…