Post # 1
Well I just got a phone call from one of my bridesmaids…
Her husband was just (last night) asked to be the best man in a wedding with the same date as ours… Mind you we are getting married in 5 months and have had a date since 2009. I don’t know how this new couple even found a place in such short notice! But that’s besides the point.
They have a baby and planned on taking her with them but now that he’s been asked to be the Best Man, they can’t split up.
Anyway… I’m definitely disappointed… cried a little, but understand she can’t really change the situation and she has to do what she has to do. At this point I’m more upset that she’s not even going to be there for the day… not even the bridesmaid part.
Partially, I’m just venting on here… but I guess I’m also trying to figure out if I ask someone to take her place? Seems a little odd to me… “replacing” a bridesmaid. I did have someone in mind who I was going to ask in the first place, but decided not to… Our bridal party was getting a bit larger than I wanted (we were at 7).
Anyway… have any of you been in a similar situation? Or one where you had to add a bridesmaid later on?
Post # 3
i am so sorry to hear that! i also wonder how the other couple found a location in such short notice…. but maybe they’ve been planning for awhile and just didn’t ask the bridal party yet? in any case, it’s up to you if you want another Bridesmaid or Best Man. 7 is a large party. does your Fiance have 7 on his side as well?
Post # 4
I’m sorry 🙁 That stinks!
Do you want even numbers? I have seen several pics/weddings with an uneven number of bridesmaids/groomsmen and it still looks just fine 🙂
Post # 5
Aw, that sucks! I am so sorry to hear that… it’s a shame that that happened, but I guess its easy to understand.
I would say don’t replace the bridesmaid. If it’s known by the new Bridesmaid or Best Man that she’s only there because someone dropped out, it might hurt her feelings. 🙁
Post # 6
@dns567 – 7 on his side, but I don’t care so much if it’s uneven.
@LaborofLove – Definitely why I’m hesitating, I think. Although the girl I ask, oddly enough, I think will understand? I would be very upfront with her and tell her the truth about the situation… she could decide if she wanted to or didnt want to.