Post # 1
My cousin/very very close friend just pulled out of my wedding via email :(. I emailed her letting her know about the shower that my other bm (M’s sister planned) and she let me know she’s not going to be able to be in the wedding. I hope everything is okay but I am pretty sad. I never imagined being married without her there with me. Thank goodness I only bought her one personalized gift, I’ll just send it to her for her birthday that’s coming up in April I guess or maybe give it to her for Christmas.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry to hear that. Did she give any reason? That really does suck. ((hugs))
Post # 4
Aw I’m so sorry! Did she allude to any reasoning behind it? I’m assuming its a personal issue, and not that she doesn’t want to be there for you? Either way though, that really sucks – I’d be crushed, too.
Post # 5
AWWWWWW that is horrible. Did she give you any reason? And why through email?
Post # 6
Really sorry to hear that too. Hope everything pans out ok. Least she told you now instead a week before the wedding or something.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
Oh that’s too bad! Is her reason legitimate at least? I guess if there is a bright side, now your party will really comprise of people you love and who really love you enough to stand by your side that day.
Post # 8
Oh no!!!! Why? I hope she’s ok too. Maybe there’s something personal going on?
Post # 9
No reason, nothing. I am heartbroken more than anything. I feel like I just got punched in the stomach.
this was the email:
“Soory, B I am not going to be able to be in the wedding in Dec”
My response was:
“Okay no biggie, what’s wrong, is everything okay?”
It is a biggie though :(. She’s like my closest cousin. If it is a money thing, I can definitely try to purchase her dress, etc for her. I hope that is all it is and I will just pay for that because how can I have a wedding without my closest friends? I only have 4 bridesmaids, you know? C’est la vie.
Post # 10
Maybe you should call her or arrange a coffee date. It sounds like there’s something going on in the background. I get that not everyone wants to air their laundry, but I think she owes you a little bit of an explanation. Like you said, if it’s a money issue, there are ways to help. I would let her know how much you value your relationship and how much it would mean to you if you guys could figure out a way to make it work. I hope it works out hon, keep us posted.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2010 - Philippe Park
Is she strictly not going to be in the wedding party, or is she unable to attend the wedding itself? It’s kind of messed up of her to pull out with a one liner e-mail and not even offer up an explanation.
Post # 12
I’m sorry to hear that! It’s sad that your closest cousin won’t be able to stand up with you when you get married. I hope everything’s okay with her.
Post # 13
Oh no, that’s sad! I hope everything is ok with her, and hopefully you can work it out with her!
Post # 14
@bakerella: she’s at home in TN, so I probably won’t see her for a few months
@rainbow: I doubt if she’ll be able to attend the wedding at all if she’s not in it, she’ll probably back out of everything. I hope it’s just money as well and I can definitely try to accommodate her as best as I can. I am just really sad right now because she and I are so close…
@chacha: i totally know and understand if it is a money issue because it is a recession and I am getting married 6 hours away from home and sigh… i have no idea what to do…
@labor: i hope so too.. she’s at work and i cannot call her right now…
my mom is not going to be happy at all 🙁 nor is her mom. her mom is my favorite aunt (shhh don’t tell the others lol) and i honestly cannot imagine her not being in my wedding. the thought makes me sooo sad. i should stop thinking about it or else i am going to burst into tears. oh well… i always wanted a small wedding so now i will have three bridesmaids instead of four and M will have like five guys lol. Most of my girls wouldn’t mind being escorted by two guys and well his friends would love it because my friends are haute to death anyway lol…
Post # 15
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
🙁 I’m sorry. That is a big bummer.
Post # 16
So sorry to hear this! I had a Maid/Matron of Honor back out via text. I texted her to ask if she’d be able to order her dress by the deadline, and she replied with “I can’t be in your wedding” and that was the last I heard from her except a letter where she gave my rent deposit back (I had moved out a week before to move into the house my husband and I were going to rent).
People suck sometimes.