Bridesmaid "Look"

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
1495 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

kristin36890 :  If you’re paying for it you can definitely ask her to wear it differently. I can understand not wanting to have forever photos with a Grecian goddess standing next to you throughout your ceremony lol

Post # 3
1991 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

kristin36890 :  I’ve been a bridesmaid several times and not once have I tried to plan out my own “look”. I’ve been told to wear my hair up in an updo, down in curls, etc. Even if you weren’t paying for it you can choose an overall look (maybe not specifics), but if you are paying for it then you can certainly ask her to do her hair a certain way. Maybe you should come up with what you want instead of telling her what you don’t want so that you aren’t insulting her vision, but following your own vision instead. 

Post # 4
828 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

“Oh what a fun idea! Can we do it so that it’s more Greek goddess *inspired* though? I guess I don’t want it to look like you’re in costume.”

Share a Pinterest board or something like that with some ideas. You can do a cool Grecian updo, a maxi dress, and some gold bangles without looking like a costume. It’s all in the execution! 

Post # 5
12219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

You can offer pay for hair if you want but that does not give you the right yo dictate how she wears it. You get input into the dress, but not personal grooming. 

Post # 7
12219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

kristin36890 :  No you can’t politely tell her how to wear her hair or how to accessorize it. You get the dress, period. 

Post # 9
11614 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

kristin36890 :  you can’t tell her not to wear her hair curly or straight. That’s too much.

But the Grecian headbands are too much for her to wear at your wedding, unless you asked everyone to wear them.

Asking her not to add costume elements is not going too far. But you shouldn’t tell people not to curl their hair. 

Post # 11
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

You’re totally justified telling her no to headbands, etc. It’s expected the bride will give guidance to the wedding party on the style of dress/accessories. It’s your wedding photos she’ll be in – so go ahead and tell your bridesmaids what you’d like them to wear. 

I’ve been a bridesmaid a few times, and never would consider telling the bride what I thought her wedding party should look like! If you casually tell her you’re just not into wreath headbands and are going for a more “X” style for your wedding, she’ll probably get right on board. I’ll second the pinterest board rec – sharing the stuff you do like with her may be a big help. 

Post # 12
4973 posts
Honey bee

I’m not sure could it be be seen as insulting to Greek culture to make a costume? 

Either way I’d broach this lightly. But this sounds kind of ridiculous its going  to look like a costume. I think the curled hair is ok a lot of people curl hair for events. 

Hair bands would look ok but arm band = costume. 

Eta just saw that you’re both Greek so you can’t complain about offending dang. 

Post # 13
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I think you could tell her you love her Grecian goddess inspiration but want to make sure it doesn’t stray towards being costumey.  The straight vs curly hair is too far though, IMO.  Her hair is naturally curly, and the notion that one is professiona/glamorous vs casual is frankly a bit outdated. Lots of women with curly hair, ex POC, doesn’t want to straighten their hair as it can be quite damaging. I think there’s happy compromise somewhere here – maybe instead of letting her curls totally airdry the stylist can help guide them and but a gloss/shine product on them to tame them a bit.

Post # 14
12219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

kristin36890 :  Come back when she tells you she plans to wear a bridal veil. That is not remotely what she’s doing. If you have already offered to pay for hair it would be petty to rescind because she wants to wear her hair curly and you don’t like her hair accessories. Also, there is a big difference between styled curls and air drying them. 

Post # 15
186 posts
Blushing bee

Regardless if you are paying for it or not, its your wedding. She sounds like she is really excited for your wedding, and thats great! Just let her know your vision and I am sure all will be fine 🙂 

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