(Closed) Bridesmaid Low On Funds Gives Huge Gift

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

use the money that she gave you to buy her a gift card or something, that way the money is still ultimately benifitting her. Use it to buy her a shower gift for her wedding.

Post # 4
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would just graciously accept it and move on.  You two are obviously close and like any good friend should, she just wanted to do something really nice for you for your wedding.  If I were her and you tried to give it back, I’d be hurt.

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I would graciously accept it and just give her an amazing gift for her wedding 🙂

Post # 6
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

This is what we did in this same exact situation (our friends were funding their own wedding and the groom had just been laid off. Their wedding was two weeks after ours): for her wedding, give her a check for the same amount. And if you want, give her cash for her shower as well, for the same amount as the $ the gift she bought you cost. I also did this for my Bridesmaid or Best Man whose baby shower was a few weeks after my wedding. I basically gave her the cash equivalent of everything she spent on my wedding!

Post # 7
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with the above.  Accept it graciously and then use it to fund her shower, gifts, etc.  Give her the cash for her honeymoon or buy her a prewedding massage and other little things that add up to the check. 

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