Post # 1
I could really use some advice.
I have an amazing bridesmaid who’s always there for me and who’s friendship I appreciate more than anything. I was married a month ago (September 18, 2010) and she gave me a check for a lot of money. However, I know that she is currently jobless (as of September 1st), paying back loans for law school and planning her own wedding in the summer of 2011. I really don’t feel comfortable taking the money, but I’m not sure what the rules of etiquette would be in this situation.
To top it off she also got me a really nice (and expensive) wedding shower gift and (of course) spent a lot on the bridesmaid dress, etc.
I’m also a bridesmaid in her wedding and I know I wouldn’t want to risk her giving back (or not accepting) any of the gifts we’d get her and her soon-to-be husband.
Post # 3
use the money that she gave you to buy her a gift card or something, that way the money is still ultimately benifitting her. Use it to buy her a shower gift for her wedding.
Post # 4
I would just graciously accept it and move on. You two are obviously close and like any good friend should, she just wanted to do something really nice for you for your wedding. If I were her and you tried to give it back, I’d be hurt.
Post # 5
I would graciously accept it and just give her an amazing gift for her wedding 🙂
Post # 6
This is what we did in this same exact situation (our friends were funding their own wedding and the groom had just been laid off. Their wedding was two weeks after ours): for her wedding, give her a check for the same amount. And if you want, give her cash for her shower as well, for the same amount as the $ the gift she bought you cost. I also did this for my Bridesmaid or Best Man whose baby shower was a few weeks after my wedding. I basically gave her the cash equivalent of everything she spent on my wedding!
Post # 7
I agree with the above. Accept it graciously and then use it to fund her shower, gifts, etc. Give her the cash for her honeymoon or buy her a prewedding massage and other little things that add up to the check.