(Closed) Bridesmaid make-up dilemma

posted 8 years ago in Beauty
Post # 3
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Don’t BMs cause such stress sometimes! 

It’s best not to disallow her from getting it done professionally if she is wanting to however I would gently explain your reasons for wanting everyone to do it themselves/together.  She may want it done professionally because she feels like she can’t do it well enough and doesn’t want to disappoint you.  I’d talk to her about it. 

Stick with what you originally wanted and tell the other girls your plans.  If they refuse to go along with you (which I personally think would be quite rude), let them pay for it professionally themselves.  I wouldn’t give it to them as gifts, because it’s not what you wanted them to do and they should respect that.


Post # 5
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Pia2010 gave great advice, but I thought I’d add my two cents, too :). I would explain to her (along with everything else), that you really wanted everyone to get ready together. If some of her concerns are that she’s not good enough to do her own makeup, have someone help her.

If she still wants to go, I would just let her, but not take all the BMs. That sounds like it would be really expensive, and I don’t think your Future Sister-In-Law should really be dictating your Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts (not that she’s maliciously trying to, but that would be the end result).

Post # 6
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree that explaining that you’d like all the girls to get ready together and that it is important to you is the first step.  After that, if she is not comforatble doing her own hair/makeup for your wedding, just ask that she have it done and be over to meet the rest of you at the same time you plan to start getting ready so she can still be around for that girl time.  Just make a day of timeline and have the ‘meet time’ at whatever time with the caveat that any girl who wants to get her hair/makeup done professional should plan to have it done with enough time to arrive at the ‘meet time’ and then get dressed with everyone.

Do not pay for any of their hair/makeup.  Since you are not requireing them to have it done, you have no obligation to pay for that expense.

Post # 7
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would just let them do as they please. My Future Mother-In-Law last minute has decided to go get her hair done somewhere else because she thinks it will be cheaper.  FYI the hairdresser is charging $50 which is a steal for wedding hair in CT. I just decided to let it go and let them do whatever they want.

Post # 8
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Definitely not a good idea to force anyone in your bridal party to get ready a certain way. If she wants to spend her own money on a spa for makeup, just let her do it.

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