- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I am aware of how petty I am going to sound, but I REALLY need to get this all off my chest! Please no hate (we ALL have moments like this).
One of my bridesmaids – we shall call her Tiffy – has been going out of her way to completely steal my thunder. Let me give you a little backstory:
My circle of friend is the kind that tries to be all inclusive. As in, we tend to ‘adopt’ people’s significant others. Tiffy had been dating my FI’s best friend ‘Ed’ for maybe a year when we got engaged. Seeing as Ed was asked to be the Bridesmaid or Best Man, I asked Tiffy to be one of my bridesmaids. She accepted.
Tiffy and Ed got engaged out of nowhere a few months after we got engaged. They didn’t tell anyone, she just posted the video of him proposing on Facebook. May I also note this was just days after her divorce was finalized. Next thing I know, she announces her wedding to be two weeks before mine. Ok, I was a little miffed, but I let it go. She’s a very self absorbed person, so she propably had no idea that planning her wedding two weeks before mine would steal some of my thunder. Before anyone asks, she is just having a city hall wedding with no bridal party. She just picked this day ‘just because’.
Also, whenever someone mentions my wedding, she always butts in and mentions her’s in two weeks before mine. Like, nobody is allowed to congratulate me when she is in earshot…she will drop whatever else she is doing to assert her wedding day. Annoying…but biting my tongue.
When it came to my bridal shower, she did NOTHING to help. She showed up in a WHITE dress, and talked about her wedding the whole time. Ok…now I am getting annoyed with her.
She wasn’t supposed to plan my bachlorette, but she took over the planning anyways. Even though my Fiance told her on FOUR seperate occasions not to take me to a male strip club (I am uncomfortable about that sort of stuff) she took us there anyways. She also deliberately mislead me about what we were doing so I was dressed ‘wrong’. I was VERY overdressed and felt quite uncomfortable. At dinner, she again held court and the conversations were all about her. She got annoyed when I wanted to send a video hello to another bridesmaid who couldn’t make it. I felt completely invisible. At the club she humiliated me and put me out of my comfort zone until I literally CRIED. She had the time of her life! The next day, TWO people texted me appologising for the evening, and commenting on how the party felt like it was for her. NOW I’M UPSET!
My wedding is only three weeks away. I am scared to confront her. Mainly because Ed is the kind of guy who believe Tiffy can do no wrong, and has gotten mad at us in the past when we’ve pointed out her self absorbed and controlling behaviour. My Fiance is saying when the wedding is over he wants to confront her bout how rude and hurtful she has been. He says if we lose her and Ed as friends, then so be it. The rest of our group is in agreeance about how awful she has been.
I SWEAR she is going to find a way to make my actual wedding day all about her too!
Oh yes, and today she writes on my facebook wall that her and Ed will likely be late for my rehersal dinner because ‘he may have to work late’ (on a Friday night…out of nowhere).