(Closed) Bridesmaid MIA

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I don’t understand why brides expect friends’ behavior to change once they have asked them to be in the bridal party.  It sounds like this is normal for your relationship.  Is there something you need to talk to her about?  Does she have her dress?  Have you called her?

I understand you might be a little worried, but if this is not out of the ordinary, then relax!

Post # 4
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

You said you haven’t heard from her — have you reached out to her?

Post # 5
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4511 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Do you mean if she doesn’t communicate with you before the wedding, you’re going to drop her as a BM? I’d be careful doing that… it sounds like it’s just her way not to communicate much, and she probably just doesn’t think that she needs to be communicating with you about anything. If she said she’d be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, then I’m sure she’s expecting to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

I’d probably just drop her an email to say hi, and you can’t wait for the wedding.

Post # 7
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you have a wedding web site with accommodation info, and she knows your expectation for attire, then she has no reason to contact you if that isn’t her style.  No, brides should not expect their friends to change communication styles just because they are in your wedding.

Post # 8
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t think the OP is implying her bridesmaid needs to change communications styles or be at her beck and call or anything like that.  I thinks she’s tried to reach out to her and has not heard back and she’s concerned because decisions need to be made and things need to get done.  No, BMs don’t have to do much more than “wear the dress, show up on time and sober and stand there” but they DO need to be available to get the dang dress!

Post # 9
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@aliavenue:  Argh. That stinks. Are any other BMs friends with her?

Post # 12
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I think she definitely has reason to return your calls/messages. All things wedding-related aside, she’s one of your closest friends (hence, being a bridesmaids) and that alone should mean that she contacts you from time to time.

Post # 13
Hostess
16215 posts
Honey Beekeeper

@aliavenue:  Well, bless your heart. You’re a much more chill bride than many! 🙂 Here’s to hoping you hear from her before your big day!

Post # 14
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Ok, I understand.  From what I got from your OP, I thought you were angry that she hasn’t reached out to you, but didn’t realize you’d been trying to get in touch with her.  That is definitely frustrating.  Have you tried calling her about non-wedding related things? 

Good luck!  Maybe she thinks that since you’re a laid back person, its ok that she doesn’t return your calls?

Post # 16
Member
1747 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My sister is going through this right now, but the roles are reversed.

Her friend is marrying a guy my sister hasn’t even met. They speak very infrequently and truthfully, my sister isn’t head over heels for her, but they do get along and meet up infrequently, sometimes talk on the phone. The girl asked my sister to be her Bridesmaid or Best Man and my sister can’t really say no, so she said yes (I told her that was a mistake). 

They didn’t stay in touch and my sister hadn’t heard from her in months. And the bride hasn’t discussed wanting to get together for plans, etc. either. The wedding is coming up and my sister is confused but actually could also care less as well.

Basically this is all based on horrible communication on both ends. If this girl isn’t returning your phone calls or emails, its safe to say she is dodging you for whatever reason (maybe she doesn’t have the balls to say it was a mistake and she can’t, just like my sister). 

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