(Closed) Bridesmaid missing shower

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - EDD 06/12/2016

@meganelizabeth17:  I personally would say something to her… Especially if she’s only been with her bf for 3 months. I think your shower is way more important!

Post # 4
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@meganelizabeth17:  that’s too bad, especially if you put the effort into scheduling a time when she could be there. However, her way of telling you definitely could have been more polite either way. I think a large part of it is her age and immaturity. As a younger bridesmaid in college, I’m sure she’s having an issue understanding why being at your shower should be a priority, especially if it involves balancing time with her boyfriend. My 19 year old sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and we had to have a discussion when it came time to shop for my dress, because her plans to hang out with friends she sees all the time were apparently more important than helping me choose a wedding dress. 

You can either let it go or try to talk nicely to her about it and explain why you want her there. Don’t be surprised though if she turns it into an argument and gets defensive. 

Post # 5
11735 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had 2 showers and neither of them had all of my BMs at them.  It was no big deal. People have lives outside of my wedding activities.

Post # 6
2836 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@meganelizabeth17:  I think it sort of sucks if she was invited to the shower first, but then opted out for “grandpa” after the fact.  If I were here, I would have made the shower, but then made sure the rest of the weekend was saved for bf’s grandpa.

I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man (one of FI’s sister) who can’t make my shower.  She has to work.  Technically speaking, I think she got the invite in enough time to take time off, but I am trying to be understanding.  She already had to take the weekend before my shower off for her sister’s baby shower, and truthfully, while we are going to be family, we aren’t super close yet, so I am not offened.  We definitely wanted our siblings to be in the wedding though- 

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