Post # 1
Okay so I just had my Bridal and bachelorette party. I was not apart of the planning for it and I guess that some dram went down between my mother, bridesmaid, and my little sister who is my Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t know one hundred percent but all I know that that my bridesmaid who has been my friend for almost thirteen years was completely beyond mad, and now she is one saying that if my mother or my Maid/Matron of Honor say anything to her she is going to punch them and is considering dropping out of my wedding that is less than four weeks away all because she doesn’t like how my mother and little sister treated her and some things that were said. From what my mother and my little sister and another brides maid say its how she ( My bridesmaid ) treated them. They are all mad and will not be in the same room as each other and I do not know what to do or how to handle the situation
Post # 2
As a MOB, I would never do anything that I thought would upset anyone in the wedding party. I also did not have any say in the planning of the shower or bachelorette party. If this somehow happened to my daughter, I think she would ask me to let it go and try to make amends with her friends. She would probably tell each bmaid separately that it was just a misunderstanding and please try to get past it. She loves us all and only wants us all to feel good. Feelings are certainly sensitive right now for all parties but they should also do whats best for you. I hope it gets worked out. Me personally, I would do whatever it takes to get things back on track for my daughter.
Post # 3
Sounds like everyone still feels pretty heated about what happened. I would let everyone try and calm down for a few days, then try to speak with each individually to get more details about what actually happened.
Post # 4
I don’t think there is anything to be gained by your getting involved. Just let them have some time to settle down and hopefully they will all be able to be civil to one another at the wedding.
Post # 5
Myst13: You need to (a) talk to each of them (individually) and get a better idea of what happened. And (b) tell them all to grow up and leave their differences aside on your wedding day.
My parents are divorced. Major, major hurt feelings due years of betrayal and then a divorce. And yet they’ve both been perfectly behaved at each of their children’s weddings. And this story is repeated at thousands of weddings. If divorced parents can behave, then so can people who’ve had a little tiff over a party.