(Closed) bridesmaid not going to fit in dress but v touchy subject!

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

whoa…I understand your pain, but most women are very touchy when it comes to their weight.  How much weight do you think she needs to lose?  If she just needs to drop 1 dress size, that shouldnt be that hard with 4 months to go…can you start some type of buddy system with her?  you guys could go to the gym together and discuss your calories and all that type of stuff…like a support system…

Post # 4
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1276 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You’ve still got several months, so I would not worry about it. You’ve got enough on your plate. Does she have the dress with her, or do you have it?  Maybe send it to her if you are the one who has it right now.  My sister had a similar issue, but it worked out.  I’m not entirely sure what the Bridesmaid or Best Man did, but she handled it herself and looked fine on the wedding day.  If she has to order new or get it altered, she can probably handle it.  Obviously be prompt answering any questions she has about it.  But let her ask but don’t force the issue.  She may have to pay a lot more to do it last minute, but that’s her thing. Since it only needs to be let out a size or so, I’m guessing there’s enough fabric in the seams to do that.

The main thing is don’t stress.  She’s an adult and she can figure this out on her own. 

Post # 5
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85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That’s such a tough situation.  Do you think the dress could be altered?  My sister had to order a bridesmaid dress when she was 8 months pregnant.  She ordered her pre-pregnancy size thinking she would be able to fit into it.  When it came time to wear the dress, it didn’t fit!  The seamstress was able to work wonders though, and nobody noticed that it had been altered.  I would definitely leave it up to her to solve this problem, as it’s a sensitive issue.  It’s going to be difficult enough for her, so the fewer people involved the better.  

Post # 6
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82 posts
Worker bee

I was in your bridesmaid’s shoes at one point – when my sister got married, the shop ordered my dress in a size smaller than they should have.  I lived in a different city, so by the time we figured out their mistake it was too late to do anything about it.  We laugh about my sister’s reaction to me, which was a snappy "Well, you’re just going to have to lose weight!"  I lost about five pounds, and they were able to take it out an inch or so, and it ended up fitting just fine by the wedding.  I would let your bridesmaid figure this out on her own – it may be motivating for her to lose weight and be healthier, but if not, you don’t want to shame her about it.  I would leave it in her hands.

Post # 7
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Newbee

since shes not totally freaking out & trying to order a new dress, i bet it just looks sorta bad on her right now. i bet trying on the dress was a wake-up call for her anyway! if i knew i had to fit into a certain dress by a certain time and id be standing in front of people & constantly photographed.. i would get my sh*t together PRONTO!

but if you still feel uneasy about it, maybe you can regularly discuss with her the photos you’re planning to take @ the wedding..? not mentioning her or her weight (since shes sensitive) but just be super excited & brainstorm poses & backgrounds with her. and also continue to mention all the guests you are excited to see~ so she is reminded that there will be ppl & photos and put the fork down!

that would be plenty motivation for me..

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