(Closed) Bridesmaid now doesn't want to wear makeup – advice?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
6626 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

JessieFay13 :  She will look just as fabulous without makeup.  Maybe ask her to go for a lip gloss or something, but don’t expect a lot from her.  I never wear makeup in my daily life and barely had any on for my wedding either.  I put some on for my best friend’s wedding and immediately washed it off, I hated it so much.  I was not washed out in photos, I didn’t look drab or blotchy, I looked great (if I say so myself, lol).  She will, too.  If blotchy skin is a real concern, that’s easy as pie to photoshop out (if you won’t offend her by doing so).  Smeary makeup isn’t a good look either.

If she personally wants to and is concerned about her own appearance, suggest she stop by a Sephora or Avon and just get a little helping hand for how to do quick and easy light makeup – she’d probably find it’s not that intimidating.  Whacking your face with some powder foundation isn’t difficult – that’s all I did, plus mascara, shadow (directions on box at Target) and gloss.  


Post # 3
7642 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

JessieFay13 :  “I don’t care if she does it herself, has someone else do it for her or pays someone to do it.”

Maybe that’s just poorly worded, but you should be offering to pay!

I think you should try to convince her to wear some light makeup, and offer to pay. That said, if she has no makeup it’s not the end of the world.

Post # 4
3114 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

Yeah I think it’s asking too much. You are asking her to stand up with you because she’s your best friend, not because of how she will enhance your photos. She never wears makeup and doesn’t own any, that’s who she is. Why is there no worry about the groomsmen’s skin being red and blotchy in the photos if that’s your real concern here? 

Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I dont think theres going to be a good way to tell her she should wear makeup.

The nicest thing you could do would be to offer to pay for her makeup to be done. That way, you are encouraging her subtly to get her makeup done. And then if she declines it, my advice would be to let it go.  Shes already doing the hair, heels and dress so I think she put in more than her fair share of effort towards your wedding. 

Post # 6
576 posts
Busy bee

You say she’s your best friend so to me that means the coversation shouldn’t be be too hard but it’s all in way you say/ask her. 

I would think she’d want to look her best for your day so hopefully she won’t fight you too much on makeup. 

Post # 7
392 posts
Helper bee

I’m not sure if the salon you have in mind for her does this, but I’ve had airbrush makeup done before, and it stayed on my face all day even though I sweat, cried, rubbed my face, etc, so that can be an option for her. 

The other thing you can do is take her to ulta or sephora or another makeup store to have them match her color and then she will know what type of foundation/powder to get. It would be nice if you would be able to purchase this for her though since she likely won’t wear it again after your wedding. 

Post # 8
568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You say you love her no matter what or you don’t care how she looks– so please let her be comfortable and leave her alone about the make up.  You are so worried about your pictures?  What about your friend?  Isn’t she more important?

Please stop talking about her behind her back, too.

Post # 9
4905 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Can’t you or another bridesmaid just do it for her? Won’t take long and she won’t feel as uncomfortable. Just some foundation or bb cream, mascara and girl is done. Nbd.

Post # 10
3450 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

Sorry, totally on her side. Its already a stretch for her to do the girly dressing up thing please don’t make her also get her face done simply bc you want photos that you feel should look a certain way. That should be her choice, if she’s fine with splotchy skin then I dont see the issue.

Post # 11
4231 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

My Maid/Matron of Honor decided last minute to dye her hair bright blue (which kind of looked odd with the emerald green bridesmaid dresses). I also had a bridesmaid decide to wear ‘whore-red’ lipstick and a REALLY gaudy necklace without consulting me. My other bridesmaid wore pasties that had a VERY visible outline through her dress.

I love my girls, so I bit my tongue. 

Post # 12
3448 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I know this isn’t at all what you’re implying, but I’m putting it out there as a possible response to you asking her to wear makeup if she opts not to. Do you think she normally looks like crap in photos? No? Then why would she not look nice in yours? Again, not saying that that is the message you are trying to send, but it could be the message that is received.

Talk to her about it, but if she’s really not comfortable I wouldn’t push it. If you accept her as she is every other day, and she’s already doing a lot to be in line with the looks you want, I would maybe let this one go. If anything your photographer can touch her up in the photos if need be.

Post # 14
7 posts
  • Wedding: May 2020

I love makeup and I believe if it’s done correctly, it can be comfortable and convenient for everyone. Her main concern is because she doesn’t want it run off when she is crying or while rubbing her eyes so maybe just a nuetral eyeshadow with waterproof mascara and a nice sheer foundation and some matte lip stick. I think it will help give the appearance of looking done up but it will also be fairly light and not too obvious if she does happen to cry and rub it off.

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