(Closed) Bridesmaid picking their own dresses

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2360 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I think this is a great way to go – I love the pictures where everyone is slightly mismatched!

Post # 4
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I love that idea and it’s what I orginally planned to do for my own bridal party.  The problem I had was finding a designer that I liked with the color I liked. Since you already have it all picked out, it should work out fine.  My other problem was that my BMs didnt’ want to pick their own dresses!  They wanted ME to pick one.  I guess they don’t like dress shopping too much. lol


Post # 5
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

HA, I thought I posted this a long time ago and forgot because I am doing exactly the same thing.  I went to the Alfred Angelo site and picked fifteen dresses, all cocktail length, all chiffon, and sent their number codes to each Bridesmaid or Best Man in an email.  They were able to take the list of 15 dresses to local shops, and try on almost every single dress. My nly request was that each girl pick a different dress from eachother(no repeats). They talked, and each ordered their own favorite in the color I asked of them.  I am so excited to have them all be slightly different in design.  But I’m not worried, because esssentially it’s the same dress, just slight variations.  I think being the same color, length and FABRIC is most important.

Post # 6
37 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m doing this with dresses from Lula Kate.  My wedding is not until July, so I can’t tell you yet how it turned out, but I thought with 8 girls it would look much better for them not to look like an army of clones.  I thought the designer had some great styles and the girls all seem to really like them.  However, it actually seemed like it was more stressful to them to pick the dresses then for me to tell them what to get.  Especially b/c most of them couldn’t try them on.  But I think its going to look great and I’m excited about it!

Post # 7
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I went even further, I told my girls to find a gray dress they liked.  I didn’t care where it came from, as long as it was wedding-appropriate and they were comfortable.  So far I love what they’ve come up with.  🙂

Post # 8
637 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m actually going even more varied.  If I have a bridal party (haven’t totally said yes to that yet–it’s largely up to FI), I would just let them all wear black cocktail dresses. 

I’m not super formal & I don’t want to impose additional costs on them–esp for something they wouldn’t wear again.  So I think as a bridesmaid, even getting to choose on that level would be very helpful & I would feel better about laying down the cash for the dress.  

Post # 9
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

My sister just told us to find something in Navy.  Each of us found dresses that we loved, and we inadvertently really complimented each other!  Worked out great!

Post # 10
384 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

The last wedding I was in did this. . with Alfred Angelo and it worked out well.  She had 8 brides maid of all different body types so it was just easier.

I’m taking the pick your own look one step further and just having my girls wear a Little Black Dress.  I have a few things that I’d like to see in the dress (knee to calf length, non-shiny material, all black ect) but really would be okay with whatever they find. 

I plan to be super specific about the shoes though.  We’re all (me included) going to wear the same green shoe.

Post # 11
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m doing the same exact thing… but with  J. Crew dresses.  I’m really happy with how it turned out.  And I think my bridesmaids are happier, since they had some say in the dress choice.  I’m hoping some of them might actually want to wear their dresses again.  It’s actually kind of funny… out of 6 dresses that the girls could choose, they all ended up choosing only 2 of the styles.  So I’ll have 2 girls in one dress, and 2 in another, rather than all 4 in different dresses like I was envisioning initially.

Post # 12
6571 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

my girls are wearing dresses with pink and flowers on them. in about a month, i’ll let you know how it turns out!

Post # 13
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love that idea! It’s what I was originally planning on doing with Jcrew. However i’m not happy with the jcrew selection right now. My sister let us pick our style from jcrew and there were 7 bridesmaids in 3 different styles. I think it looked really good. I love it if all the BM’s can be comfortable and put a little bit of their own style into their dress selection. I will check out Alfred angelo to see what their options are.

Post # 14
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m letting my Bridesmaid or Best Man pick out their dresses from a list of six.  I just stuck to the same color and fabric so there would be some similarity in the pictures.  I am somewhat amused that I wasn’t popular when I picked a dress for everyone to wear, and then when I gave them the option to pick a dress, I didn’t get any more popular.  But it will all work in the end.

Post # 15
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

My girls are picking out their own dresses. My stipulations were black and tea or cocktail length.

Post # 16
3871 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s what I did. Well sort of.  I went on the DB’s website and picked all but 5 of the long dresses in my color and let them pick. 

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