(Closed) Bridesmaid plans on being in Two Weddings the same day?! ( a bit long)

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

That is NOT going to work. I had a 6 PM ceremony and I still needed the bridesmaids there and ready at 3 for pictures. Unless the other wedding she’s going to is at, like, 8 AM (assuming yours is the later one) or she skips the reception entirely, this doesn’t work.

I would ask her to pick which wedding she’s going to be in, and be prepared in case she picks the other one (which… WTF?). There just is no way she will be able to do both and not be a pain in the ass of a bridesmaid for you to deal with.

Post # 19
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

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@LGenz: lol. i wouldn’t recommend it in real life, but it does kinda make me laugh 🙂

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

has she already bought the dress for yours?  this girl sounds like a piece of work.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think this is one of those instances where you do need to let a lil “Bridezilla” come out.  This is NOT ok.  I can’t even imagine what I would have done if one of my BM’s had come up with some BS like that….especially on FB.  You are already a way bigger person than me as I would have posted a “WTF” on her wall and then de-friended her!  Lol… 

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly I would tell her she needs to decide.  It will not work with being in both.  I am so sorry that this is happening to you

Post # 24
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Kateski: Yeah I don’t even know why someone would agree to that, unless she is really non-confrontational and couldn’t say no to the other bride. I get the feeling she is….based on the passive-aggressive facebook bs.

I’d tell her to choose. Tell her that you are not going to worry over her timing issues on your wedding day, and you’d appreciate an honest answer from her “Whose wedding do you want to be a part of more?” And go from there. If she chooses the other one, it sucks, but then you’ll know where you really stand. Btw — how could the other bride not know that? When my friends are in other weddings we all talk about it, whether it’s a mutual friend or not. “Hey I’m going Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping for so-and-so’s wedding today!” Oh really, when is her wedding? Lol. Jeez.

Sorry you’re in this situation. :/ It’s stupid.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am so surprised that she would make a choice like that after you helped and participated in her with her wedding.  It is not like she does NOT know what kind of commitment it is going to be….. 

Post # 27
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

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@Kateski: Didn’t say it would be easy, just that you’ll know where you stand with her. It does suck, and it’s not an “oh well” situation, but it’s something that you’ll have to handle. Good luck.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

i would be offended about this whole situation. yes tell her shes not in a movie!!

Post # 30
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s crazy.  I can’t even imagine thinking I’d be a bridesmaid that just went to a ceremony and not the reception. 

She’s going to have to choose, and hopefully your friendship can survive if she doesn’t choose you.  🙁

Post # 31
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Kateski:

Yeah that’s not going to work and what you say is true, you want your Bridesmaid or Best Man with you the whole day not just for a 30 min ceremony.  She’s supposed to help you out all day. 

I agree with so many PPs that she needs to choose.  Quite frankly if she didn’t choose me and I were you than I could not continue being friends with her.

Let us know what happens, or if we should send a film crew to tape the real life 27 dresses.

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