(Closed) Bridesmaid plans on being in Two Weddings the same day?! ( a bit long)

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@sceeder: Took the words right out of my mouth. She will most likely post all about it on FB. Just ridiculous!

Post # 47
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG- can I ask- how old is this girl? She seems incredibly immature and irresponsible. I feel so badly for you, and worse- that you had to find out about this on Facebook?!?! There is no possible way for her to be in two weddings on the same day. I was in two weddings within TWO weeks and THAT was incredibly stressful and expensive (not just for the wedding, but for all the events leading up to the wedding- bridal showers, bachelorette party, dress fittings, etc). I just cannot even fathom being in two weddings in ONE DAY. This girl sounds like trouble. This is unnecessary stress that you don’t need. I can’t believe anyone on “Facebook” didn’t point this out to her. I’m glad you called her and stood your ground- but I’m sorry that your friend was so crappy that you ever HAD to call her in the first place.


Post # 50
711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Honestly, she sounds very conflicted with the decision she has made. If I were you I would honestly relieve her of her duties (not to be mean, but because she is obviously still struggling with her decision). I would just say something like ” you know, I can see how conflicted you are about your decision and I think it might be best if you just attend the wedding that way you could try to make it to both if you felt you were capable – that would take the stress off of your obligation to meet the strict time frame of the wedding day”.

I really hope it all works out, but I have a feeling this isnt the end of the “two weddings in a day” and that you might be dealing with this anyway, possible on your wedding day.

What a sticky situation – good luck!!!!!

Post # 51
4767 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

it seems she may be “feeding her baby” during the time of the other wedding.

Post # 52
47 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Atalanta: I could not agree with you more!

Post # 53
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Do we have the same friend? I have a “friend” like this too who never thinks she did anything wrong and it’s always the other person’s fault. I’m so glad you stood your ground and didn’t let her manipulate you into thinking that you were wrong. She is absolutely ridiculous for thinking she could be in two weddings on the same day.

Post # 54
5920 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

How frustrating! I just don’t see how that would be possible! My ceremony didn’t start until 7:30pm, and we started hair and makeup at 9:00am!

Post # 55
1963 posts
Buzzing bee

Um, I would just let her go.

Post # 56
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

omg this whole situation annoys me. i am so sorry that you had to deal with this, but i’m glad that you worked everything out. you are a better friend that i am – i would have flipped out 🙂

Post # 57
1398 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You were right to call her. The fact that you had to find out about all this via facebook really sucks. Hopefully she will have the guts to actually call the other girl and tell her she won’t be at the wedding instead of letting her find out the way you did.

Post # 58
5104 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011


@Cremebrulee41: I think we all three have the same “friend”. Mine I mistakenly made my Maid/Matron of Honor. She cancelled  on me the very first time I EVER went to try on dresses and she didn’t even have to courtesy to tell me. I texted her asking if she was ready FIFTEEN minutes before we were supposed to meet up and she texts me back saying she can’t go, she’s been up “sick” all night.

I knew she was lying. And I was right. She defended herself to the end. Apparently “sick” has a penis, because it ended up she was really with some dude she had known for like a week. They had gotten tore up and she had stayed at his place. I mean, shame on me for getting in the way of TRUE LOVE.

I have gotten to the point where I could care less if she’s even in my wedding because her insane actions have continued and she is so wrapped up in said guy. She’s been demoted, and not sure if I even want her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

I really and truly hope this all works out for you. It is so infuritating and hurtful to have to dealwith something like this. ((hugs))

Post # 60
5890 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

At this point I’m not sure I’d want her in my wedding anymore. I have a feeling she is going to make the day all about her and the ‘sacrifices’ she made to be there. Or she suddenly won’t feel well at about 6:30 and have to leave. Surprise when photos of her in the other wedding pop-up on FB.

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