(Closed) Bridesmaid plans on being in Two Weddings the same day?! ( a bit long)

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 61
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Ugh, I would be so annoyed. But honestly, I am so tired of drama surrounding my wedding. If my bridesmaid honestly wanted to do this then fine… I would not be happy, but I would not work around her schedule either. If she doesn’t make it to help me get dressed or put make up on… fine. If she doesn’t make it down the aisle, whatever. As long as my fiance is there I don’t care what she does. There is too much else to stress about than for me to change my entire schedule around her availability.

I’m not trying to downplay why you’re mad. Believe me, I would be extremely mad as well! Ugh! I would hate for my friend (who I loved enough to call a bridesmaid) to not be there for me completely on my day. What about the reception? But at the end of the day–I just need to not worry about what anyone else is doing.

Post # 62
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

AHH!! This makes me hate people for you. WHY CAN’T PEOPLE CONSIDER THE SCHEDULES OF OTHERS?!?! Honestly. She should have said no to her other friend.

Why can’t people 1) Identify their wedding party 2) Check schedules of wedding party and immediate family THEN 3) Set their date (knowing conflicts ahead of time, it doesn’t force their family or wedding party to choose)

I don’t think it’s reasonable to be in two weddings in one day at all… Unless one was a breakfast and the other a sunset. It’s ridiculous to leave a wedding early when you’re a bridesmaid.

Post # 63
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@Kateski:  WOW! I would seriously not let this bitch be in my wedding.  You are not being a bridezilla.  That’s ridiculous.  She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings… but she posted it on Facebook of all places! Somewhere YOU can read it.  She didn’t even come to your first.  That’s not a friend whose worth even being in your party.  I typed a whole response before seeing that you called her, and I am so glad you called her on it!  Look, it’s a different story being at two weddings in one night (I’ve done it… it was out of control hard) but when you’re a bridesmaid, you’ve made a commitment to one wedding already and you truly cannot go back and forth between others.  I hope you kick her out of your wedding party!

Post # 65
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Are you sure you don’t want to use this as a point to say: “I’m not sure if you’ll have enough time to fully participate in our day. Would you rather just attend the wedding so you don’t have to worry about your baby?”

I know, I know, it’s “rude” to ask people to step down but SERIOUSLY, in this case I probably would before it escalates even more. She doesn’t appear to give a crap that it’s going to be your wedding day, and because of that I wouldn’t even want her around me that much…

Post # 67
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

This chick seriously sounds like a pain in the a**.  You’re pretty nice.  I’m not a bridzilla by any means, but she’d be out of my wedding at this point after all this crap. 

Post # 68
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7368 posts
Busy Beekeeper

damn this chica is totally of pocket. Sad to say but I do forsee strike #10 coming.

Post # 69
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Wow…she sounds like a bridesmaidzilla. If I were you, I’d relieve her of her duties. It’s not worth the stress to you.

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Kateski:  she has no idea what a commitment is!  I would ask her how she plane on being in 2 weddings and have her go over the schedules.  I don’t think she’s thinking about how long the ceremony is as well as who’s reception is she missing?  She might just be telling everyone yes because she can’t say no with out even thinking about the logistics.  You will have to confirm with her some type of commitment or this could be disastrous. You have enough stress,, she should be relieving the stress not contributing to it.,  good luck

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