Post # 61
Ugh, I would be so annoyed. But honestly, I am so tired of drama surrounding my wedding. If my bridesmaid honestly wanted to do this then fine… I would not be happy, but I would not work around her schedule either. If she doesn’t make it to help me get dressed or put make up on… fine. If she doesn’t make it down the aisle, whatever. As long as my fiance is there I don’t care what she does. There is too much else to stress about than for me to change my entire schedule around her availability.
I’m not trying to downplay why you’re mad. Believe me, I would be extremely mad as well! Ugh! I would hate for my friend (who I loved enough to call a bridesmaid) to not be there for me completely on my day. What about the reception? But at the end of the day–I just need to not worry about what anyone else is doing.
Post # 62
AHH!! This makes me hate people for you. WHY CAN’T PEOPLE CONSIDER THE SCHEDULES OF OTHERS?!?! Honestly. She should have said no to her other friend.
Why can’t people 1) Identify their wedding party 2) Check schedules of wedding party and immediate family THEN 3) Set their date (knowing conflicts ahead of time, it doesn’t force their family or wedding party to choose)
I don’t think it’s reasonable to be in two weddings in one day at all… Unless one was a breakfast and the other a sunset. It’s ridiculous to leave a wedding early when you’re a bridesmaid.
Post # 63
@Kateski: WOW! I would seriously not let this bitch be in my wedding. You are not being a bridezilla. That’s ridiculous. She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings… but she posted it on Facebook of all places! Somewhere YOU can read it. She didn’t even come to your first. That’s not a friend whose worth even being in your party. I typed a whole response before seeing that you called her, and I am so glad you called her on it! Look, it’s a different story being at two weddings in one night (I’ve done it… it was out of control hard) but when you’re a bridesmaid, you’ve made a commitment to one wedding already and you truly cannot go back and forth between others. I hope you kick her out of your wedding party!
Post # 64
AND SHE STRIKES AGAIN! You’re correct..she is being a pain to deal with. So now she is just trying to be difficult. I sent out an email to all of my girls with a rough schedule of our wedding date to give them an idea of what the day will be like and noted that it was not meant to stress them out and it was just so they could plan accordingly. I explained we will need to get to the hall for 830am to get everything there and put in place and that the wedding reception will most likely end around 11pm and I would appreciate it if they all could hang around until it’s over so I have help packing my parents car with our gifts/decorations etc as we will need the extra hands and that I would have a 14 passenger van to take us where we all need to go.
Everyone was on the same page EXCEPT this girl. She replied back with “I am not trying to stress you out, but I am letting you know now I won’t be able to follow that exact schedule. First off, i wont be able to make it in the morning to help because it’s just not feasible for me to be away from baby that long andI will need to pump and feed him so I am not engorged and sore. I can meet you girls at noon to get ready. I will also be mia during dinner to pump and/or feed. As for staying for the whole reception, I’ll try but if my husband needs to leave early to take the baby home, I’ll need to leave too as he is my ride.”
So she cant help us set up in the A.M.and can’t help clean up in the evening…so basically she can come stand in my ceremony, eat some food and then leave. No one plans their child’s feeding schedule 6 months in advance..she’s just being childish.
It’s not worth my breath at this point. I called her, let her know I got her message and that it’s fine if she feels she can’t do anything until noon because of breast feeding(which we all know you dont need to spend 4 hours of your day breast feeding/pumping) and that she doesnt need to worry about leaving early and getting home as the can driver will drop her off at her doorstep. I led the conversation and hopefully she is getting the point I’m not playing this game with her. Our wedding day is not going to be about her and her personal attitude issues. Her attitude is unexceptable at this point. She is pushing my buttons purposely–one more “slip up” and this sleeping dragon is going to start breathing fire! ahaha
I have been more then patient, but soon, she is going to hear about it.
Post # 65
Are you sure you don’t want to use this as a point to say: “I’m not sure if you’ll have enough time to fully participate in our day. Would you rather just attend the wedding so you don’t have to worry about your baby?”
I know, I know, it’s “rude” to ask people to step down but SERIOUSLY, in this case I probably would before it escalates even more. She doesn’t appear to give a crap that it’s going to be your wedding day, and because of that I wouldn’t even want her around me that much…
Post # 66
Thats my next plan…any more “complications” with her, I am going to suggest she just attend the wedding as it seems to be a bit much for her. I have gone above and beyond to work with her and she is being very reluctant to work with me. Strike 3 (which is really like strike 9) and she’s going to have to accept the fact I no longer wish to have her as a bridesmaid. She is the only one that is not on board.
Post # 67
This chick seriously sounds like a pain in the a**. You’re pretty nice. I’m not a bridzilla by any means, but she’d be out of my wedding at this point after all this crap.
Post # 68
damn this chica is totally of pocket. Sad to say but I do forsee strike #10 coming.
Post # 69
Wow…she sounds like a bridesmaidzilla. If I were you, I’d relieve her of her duties. It’s not worth the stress to you.
Post # 70
@Kateski: she has no idea what a commitment is! I would ask her how she plane on being in 2 weddings and have her go over the schedules. I don’t think she’s thinking about how long the ceremony is as well as who’s reception is she missing? She might just be telling everyone yes because she can’t say no with out even thinking about the logistics. You will have to confirm with her some type of commitment or this could be disastrous. You have enough stress,, she should be relieving the stress not contributing to it., good luck