Post # 1
Okay I’m going to make this as short as possible. I had a Maid/Matron of Honor and she didn’t help with anything and could care less, so I kicked her out of Maid/Matron of Honor spot, and made her just a regular bridesmaid. She didn’t show up to the bridal shower, and came out for the bachelorette party for just a few minutes and then left. She texted me last night saying she isn’t going to take time off of work to come to the rehearsal dinner.. I don’t know what to do. ? My wedding is in 16 days, and I can’t kick her out of the wedding all together because then I won’t have even number of people on both sides.. But I’m hurt and it upsets me to think my BEST FRIEND, could care less about my wedding? what should i do? please give me advise
Post # 3
urgh im sorry….that sucks. there really isnt much you can do about it now since your wedding is so close…..but i would suggest telling her how you feel. not that it would matter or help any…but maybe if you share with her how she is hurting your feelings it will cause her to change….invite her to a dinner just you and her. she is prob still upset about being demoted.
Post # 4
Have you tried to sit down and talk with her one on one in a neutral setting about how much she is hurting you? Maybe she has a reason she can’t take the time off from work for the rehearsal. She might not be able to afford it and is embarrassed enough not to say why she can’t take the time off. If she’s not taking the time off for any good reason I would be ticked off. You will never know until you sit down and try to air things out though. Getting things off of your chest before your big day should help relieve a lot of stress over this.
Post # 5
Ugh that really sucks. The rehearsal dinner isn’t really optional, in my opinion, but maybe they won’t let her take off work? As opposed to her just not caring? I’ve felt this way about one or two of the girls in my bridal party, and it has definitely hurt my feelings, but I try to keep in perspective that their lives do not revolve around my wedding. I understand that it hurts though when someone that you are so close to acts like it isn’t important at all…
Post # 6
thanks girls .. NO, i’ve tried to sit down and hang out with her and tell her what i feel, but she is always to busy.. She isn’t upset about being demoted, cuz when i did she just looked and said I DON”T CARE.. so i know thats not whats wrong, she doesn’t really need the money, she has plenty, and she works in a resturant i use to and if i need a day off it would be okay, or even just ask if i could come in at night would be fine.. she doesn’t haven’t to be there all day it starts at 1 will be over by 2 maybe 230. and then we are just having a bbq at my house.. i’ve told them about the date 2 months ago, and i really don’t think thats the problem. i don’t know its just hurtful, we use to spend everyday all day together, and now that i have a family a son thats 10 months and can’t just go out and party and hang out everyday. i think thats one of the problems. she still can and she does .. i don’t know. its just sucks.
Post # 7
Is having an even number on each side that important to you? I have been to several wedding where there weren’t an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen and it looked perfectly fine. When you look at pictures of your wedding don’t you want to see the people who are there for you and supportive of you? I feel like I would always be resentful when I saw that particular bridesmaid in pictures knowing how much she hurt me.
Post # 8
@RahlyRah: yeah, i was gonna say, there is no problem not having equal sides if you just don’t want her in the wedding anymore! unless that really bothers you, not having equal sides