(Closed) Bridesmaid problem. PLEASE HELP

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I understand where you’re coming from. I just don’t have a lot of friends. But I am pretty well acquainted with some off my fiancé’s best friends’ girlfriends & I’ve considered asking 2 of them. I have one friend that I was close to in high school, and she said yes (Although I had only talked to her here & there on Facebook.) She said she’d be honored. 

And what about family? I’m the only girl unfortunately, so it wasn’t an option for me, but maybe you’ll have some luck.

Post # 4
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313 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2005

That sounds like me, I have more male friends then I did female friends and because of that I only had 2 bridesmaids and one maid of honor…..the Maid/Matron of Honor was my sister and one Bridesmaid or Best Man was my husbands sister and the other was my Boyfriend or Best Friend in highschool.  Needless to say I didn’t have too many close personal friends standing with me…but you know what?  It didn’t matter.  I wanted a small’ish wedding to begin with and it turned out perfect for me.  For your friends though, if yall had a falling out then I can’t say whether or not to invite them, it’s really up to you on how big that argument was.  You don’t have to have bridesmaids….it’s not about them, it’s about you darlin’.  It’s your wedding, NO ONE is going to care how many bridesmaids you have, you want those you care about standing with you and if it’s just the one person then that’s great.  It’s meaningful to you, not to anyone else.

Post # 6
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Newbee

@futuremrsbc:  Hi, Isn’t this the perfect situation for you and your old friends to resolve the past issues? I think you should try to initiate a resolution. They’ll understand! 

Post # 7
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1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I agree with the person who said you and your friends shoulf try to resolve your issues? Is it beyond being able to be resolved?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Maybe, as others have stated, you could resolve your issues.  Otherwise, and maybe this is just me, but I don’t really see the big deal abotu standing up there “alone.”  I’m kind of going through the same thing, and I would think that the maids are supposed to be there to give you support leading up to that day.  However, I gave all of my maids a really easy job of just showing up, not throwing me any parties, and just wearing dresses they can get from target or something else and they can wear again after the wedding.  Well now i’m in a position where none of them cared up until now (4 months before the wedding) and one of my girls is giving me crap everyday and trying to nit pick all of my choices and bring me down, and one of my girls just backed out.  I was seriously debating trying to get rid of the whole party (the remaining 3) and only be standing up there with my Fiance and his 8 GROOMSMEN!  Talk about different! But, for trying to keep the peace, I am going to try to ignore my “friend” who is being a pain.  If i had it to do all over, I would have picked a close family friend, an older female friend, and an aunt for the lineup.  I now don’t want to replace my friend who dropped out and make her feel like she has indeed been replaced.  I think these girls are just raking me over the coals… and I dont even care anymore!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

I think that if you live your day to day life with not that many friends, you should be fine without bridesmaids. After all, your BEST friend, your fiance, will be up there with you, and that’s the only one that matters. People put too much emphasis on having bridesmaids to support you, when really all of your wedding guests are there to support do just that. 

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