(Closed) bridesmaid problems… AGAIN. I am so upset.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Personally, I wouldn’t put up with that from a bridesmaid. I don’t expect everyone to drop their lives for my wedding. I’m not even expecting a shower or a bachelorette. But somebody pooping all over my rainbow like that just wouldn’t fly. I’m not sure it’s the best thing to do but at this point I’d probably tell her she has such and such time to order the dress if she wants to be in the bridal party. If she doesn’t want to be in the bridal party, she has an out. What a brat.

Post # 4
Member
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

You should ask her if she really wants to be in your wedding. Politely. Give her a legitimate opportunity to back out and then don’t hold a grudge about it if she does back out. If she wants to be in the wedding, then tell her she needs to order the damn dress and stop complaining about everything since she’s there to support you not you her.

Post # 5
Member
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

How old is your sister? She just seems like a brat, TBO.

1)That dres is super cute

2)If she does not order it, then she does not get to be in the wedding party

I know it sucks that your sister is not there for you, but you can not change her. You can change your reactions and how you let her affect you. If she is a brat over everything you tell her, just STOP TELLING her stuff about the wedding.

Post # 6
Member
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with the previous posts. Ask her if she truly wants to be in your wedding, if not then it’s her loss! 

Post # 8
Member
1803 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Wow. I don’t care if she were my sister – she’d be kicked out of the wedding! That’s ridiculous and she’s acting childish. The dress is NOT ugly. Very cute and flattering by the way. If she doesn’t like it, then that’s her problem for not replying in the beginning. She needs to suck it up or not be in the wedding. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this!

Post # 9
Member
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Aw!  I’m sorry you are having issues with your sister.  This sounds similar to me; I have 4 BMs (two are my sisters).  All gave feedback on the dresses I was looking at (none live near me, so it was via e-mail), except for her.  Finally, they went to try on the dresses I liked, except for her, as well.  I had to tell my other sister to drag her butt to the store to order her dress (it was on sale and I was afraid of losing out on the dress if it was going to be discontinued.  She’s at the store and calls me to tell me that the dress is not cute.  Hello, I could’ve used that feedback when I asked for it!  I told her she was SOL and should’ve taken an interest when I was looking for opinons and to order her dress already, lol.  She did, I’m sure pouting the entire time.  Man, baby sisters can be so aggravating!  I was nearly at the point of telling her that I felt she didn’t want to be in my wedding and giving her an out, but thankfully, it didn’t get there.  I hope you can resolve this! Hugs!

Post # 11
Member
7904 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@mrsrecon:  “she starts talking about her own wedding and she isn’t even engaged!!”

That sounds like the heart of the problem right there… she’s jealous and is taking it out on you.

Post # 13
Member
766 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

And btw, I loooove the dress! It’s so cute!

Post # 15
Member
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

…. Why is she in your wedding party? 

The topic ‘bridesmaid problems… AGAIN. I am so upset.’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors