- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
okay so i posted on here about my bridesmaids not odering their dresses. and how they are getting mad at me but let me explain whats happening now. i really need advice
3 of my sisters and 3 of my best friends are my bridesmaids
my sister all have either ordered the dress already or let me know when they will order it
but my three friends havent ordered, and basically are telling me im a “bridezilla”
i picked out the bridesmaid dresses in like september and told them to take their time ordering because we had so long. so now that it is december i sent them the link to the dress again and they acted like they had never seen it before! so it freaked me out. we have 6 months, still a pretty long time but every dress shop i have talked to says it takes 14-16 weeks to get this dress and if they need alterations they need time for those. since the sizes of the dress run so weird (im normally a size 4 and i would be a 10 in this dress)
i keep asking them to get measured and order them. none of my bridesmaids live by me so it makes it harder to get them to do this. I went through the trouble of finding a bridal shop by my 3 friends that has the dress and told me she will measure them and have them try them on and everything and give them a 25% discount for ordering under my name. so i did all that for them, now all they have to do is go get measured and buy it. but they arent!!
everytime i call and ask them to do it they tell me im being a b**** and a bridezilla and when i email or FB message they ignore it. I think i am the most easy going bride ever, even my fiance, parents and Maid/Matron of Honor said so, and i am trying my hardest to let them take their time, but what if they dont have it in time? or get the size wrong and dont have time for alterations or a new one?
I told them the other day i am not trying to be mean but they have been my best friends since i was 10 years old and i cant picture my wedding day without them so i am just stressed out, i thought that would help.. but it didn’t they still have no plans to go get measured for their dress or anything.
I also told them they may want to start looking into flights for the wedding. I live in NC they live in NY. the longer they wait the more expensive it will be and they haven’t even looked into flights.
another thing is my sisters and friends all agreed to share a rental home the week of the wedding. the 6 bridesmaids will split the cost and it will be about 300$ each for the entire week (and a hotel would be atleast 100$ a night around here, so atleast 700$ for the week) so thats a good deal.. but now my friends are kind of talking like they arent going to do it. since my sister already made the deposit it still has to be paid for.. so i told them if they agreed to it, they have to do it. and they said they would stay there but they are mad at me.
how can i get them to listen without thinking i am a being mean? I just feel like they dont care. and not only is it stressing me out but it is really hurting my feelings.