(Closed) Bridesmaid question PLEASE HELP!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

your pics will look fine! I would ask her how she feels, and give her the option of stepping down. if she wants to stick it out- then be prepared for a last minute change. good luck!

Post # 4
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Don’t worry 🙂

That’s the first thing you should do. THEN… ask her if she think she’ll still be up to it. She might say yes, and then a month, week before, say she’s not up to it. Its just something you’ll have to play by ear. You’re still a ways off, so after a month or few weeks of congratulating her, ask if she thinks she’ll want to be a bridesmaid or if she’d be more comfortable doing something else less front-and-center.

One of my besties is due 3 weeks after my wedding in July. So far, she’s on board still, but we’ll just have to wait and see how she’s feeling.

Don’t worry about pictures. Besides, you’ll have FAR MORE pics of you and hubby than you and bridesmaids. Let her pick a dress with an empire waist and something in a flattering fabric that isn’t expensive (she’ll REALLY never wear a materinity bridesmaid dress again).

Not a fan of “replacement” bridesmaids. Sides don’t have to be even, and its kinda like being second string haha – Obviously the health of your friend and baby are more important than having even sides 🙂  — If she’s on bedrest (hope not!), or the bundle of joy is here, so be it! Some lucky bridesmaid gets to walk in/out with two groomsmen!

Post # 5
2 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

Well, first thing, you should ask her if she will be ok with the pregnant & dress & photos & standing in front of people. It’s no use asking us what she will be comfortable with.


Second, if you’re worried about symmetry in your photos, you could maybe try to find a backup option? Maybe find someone who would be willing to jump in last minute. This could be hard if there’s a very specific dress for your bridesmaids, but it’s somethign to consider if you have a very understanding friend you could call on.

Post # 6
2634 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t understand why you wouldn’t just keep her.  A variety of designers make maternity Bridesmaid or Best Man gowns, so surely you’ll find something for her to wear.  Let HER make the decision.  If she feels like she won’t be able to do it, then she’ll probably ask you to let her step down – I wouldn’t just assume that because she is pregnant that she won’t make it.


Don’t worry about the un-even sides!  Even if she has to be seated during the ceremony I’m certain she’ll want to be there for you.

Post # 7
1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Just go ahead and speak with her!  Let her know how happy you are for her and ask her if she still wants to be a bridesmaid.  If she says no, you can consider whether there is another friend you’d like to include.  If she says yes, play it by ear…she may not be feeling well enough when the time actually arrives, the baby may come early, and you’ll just have to roll with it.  However, you really can’t kick her out of the wedding just because she’s pregnant–you have to let it be her decision.  If it turns out that she can’t be there the day of–you’ll have uneven sides, and it will be just fine!  Lots of people have uneven sides!  It’s common.  I wouldn’t worry about it, because there’s nothing you can do about it!  And welcome to weddingbee!

Post # 8
1482 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely talk to her and offer her an “out” if she wants.  All pregnancies are different- for all you know, your friend won’t mind being a pregnant bridesmaid!  She could very well feel perfectly fine on your wedding day and be more than able to be a part of your day.  Or, if for some reason the baby comes early, then you have uneven sides.  Tons of people do that and it looks fine- I myself have one less Bridesmaid or Best Man than Groomsmen. 


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