(Closed) Bridesmaid question…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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829 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

That is so weird you can not contact her. I would continue trying and if all else fails I would maybe assume she is out. Goodluck

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That is frustrating!  I think I’d try one more time.  Tell her you still want her to be in the wedding and with the move you realize she may be less available but that’s fine.  If she doesn’t respond, or says no, you still have time to either find someone to replace her or figure out how to even things out.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Im sorry that she hasnt contacted you and is now moving away. I would consider her out esp because you can’t get in touch with her. How is she supposed to know whats going on or expect to know. Hopefully she does contact you soon, and like Jennifer said tell her you still want her to be a part of the big day and if she cant you hope to see her at your wedding. Good luck.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that since you’re wedding is in September, you still have a bit of time to figure this out (unless your order time for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses is coming up).  She might just be caught up in her own life and move and might not be responding just because of that.  If you have her phone number or can get it . . . or know whatever is the best way to contact her (my Maid/Matron of Honor never checks emails, which drives me crazy) and do it that way.  If you can get ahold of her, talk to her about it.  If not, leave a message, email, FB comment asking her to get ahold of you and wait a month or two.  Then, really weigh out your options.

Or, just ask yourself “is this a person I can trust and rely on.”  And, if the answer is no, do whatever you feel most comfortable with.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

How long has it been since you first contacted her and how long since you last contacted her?  If more than say 2 weeks, I would consider her out.  If you do finally hear from her but you’ve already asked someone else, just say “you are so sorry but you went ahead and asked someone else.  Say you feel terrible but you figured she couldn’t do it anymore and didn’t want to make a big deal about it.  No biggie but how would she feel about a reading instead?”  That last part only if she sounds upset.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Give her a few weeks after the move and see if you can get in touch with you.  Also, if it goes much longer then maybe you can give her a date, if I don’t hear from you by xx/xx/xxxx then I will assume you aren’t able to participate as a bridesmaid but still hope you will be able to attend the wedding.  

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I would try to find her number…maybe you can look it up or something. Give it another week and then see what you really want to do. If you need to get moving with the dresses and other things and she doesnt get back to you then I would just leave her a message saying you really want her in it but if she cant communicate then she is out.

Post # 12
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1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think you’ve really worked your butt off trying to get a hold of her. So assume she’s out unless she says otherwise. I’m so sorry @LaborOfLove!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you think she’s more active on Facebook, send her the final message there.  Like I said, my Maid/Matron of Honor never uses email but somehow uses FB, and then I can generally see if she’s on FB and has commented elsewhere but hasn’t commented on my message to her (and I then call her out on it).

I think you plan sounds good though . . . wait 2 weeks, send her a final message and see if you get a response within a reasonable amount of time.  If you still don’t hear from her, send her one more saying that due to her lack of response, she’s been replaced (in nicer words, obviously)!

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