(Closed) Bridesmaid Questions?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you care about the size of your bridesmaids?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    6 %
    No : (50 votes)
    94 %
  • Post # 3
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    My first bit of advice is to not spend all summer worrying about this. If you’re a teenager, your body is still settling into its rhythms. There’s a possibility that your cycles will shift a bit over the next few months, and the wedding may not coincide with your period as you expect.

    Do you get regular exercise and eat a good diet? I’m in my early-mid-thirties, and I’ve gone through stages when I hardly did any exercise and others when I got much more. Looking back, there is a noticeable difference between when I was in my teens and early twenties, not exercising very much, and having a lot of cramps, and then after I started exercising more, became a vegetarian and lost some weight, the cramps were much, much milder. I also found that if I knew my period was due and I took an ibuprofen pre-emptively, before the cramps started, I could pretty much avoid them completely. Maybe you can try to head them off?

    Finally, try to not focus on yourself (I know this is easier said than done!) and concentrate on helping your cousin have a wonderful, joyous day. When your genuine happiness for her shines through, you will be beautiful no matter what.

    Post # 4
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    39 posts
    Newbee

    August is still a few months away, if you are that self concious then why don’t you try losing a few pounds over the next few months? Also, are you on birth control by chance? I know you said you are a teenager but I was on the pill at 17 because of menstrual issues and the ability to “skip” my period was awesome.

    But if you don’t think you’ll be able to enjoy the day or be in a good mood for your cousin, then perhaps you should step down from bridesmaid duty? You already seem to have a bad attitude about something months down the road so if you keep thinking this way then you will definitely be grumpy the day of.

    Post # 5
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    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Go and see a doctor. If your period is negatively affecting your life this much you need to find a solution. There are lots of products and medications out there that can potentially help. Discuss it with your doctor and I’m sure they’ll have a solution for you.

    Post # 6
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    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @CityBride2013:  You already seem to have a bad attitude about something months down the road so if you keep thinking this way then you will definitely be grumpy the day of.  +1

    I say just step down.

    Post # 7
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    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well, if you honestly feel like you’re going to be moody and cranky, maybe step down as a bridesmaid? It’s not fair to subject the bride to that kind of stress on her wedding day. Not sure what kind of medication you’ve already tried, but have you considered birth control to help control your cramps? My teenage sister takes the pill for acne and cramps and it has helped her tremendously in both areas.

    And I don’t see what your size has to do with anything. We all have women of all different shapes and sizes in our bridal parties. It’s not about what looks good in pictures. Any picture that has the people you love in it is going to be a great picture 🙂

    Post # 8
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    @CityBride2013:  

    @Rubbs:  

    @HeyKaraoke:  Ladies, really? A teenager comes on here asking for advice, and you tell her to step down from her cousin’s wedding?

    What if you had a teenage cousin who was struggling with something like this and a bunch of strangers on the internet told her to step down from your weddings? Wouldn’t you prefer that they offer her at least a shred of support? Do none of you remember how much it sucks sometimes to be a teenager?

    Post # 9
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    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @KCKnd2:  Yeah, it does suck to be a teenager, but it is an HONOR in my eyes to be asked to be a part of someone’s wedding day. 

    Post # 10
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    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    @Rubbs:  And she is clearly concerned about helping her cousin have a happy wedding day and wants some advice for how to do that. Your post to her was pretty uninspiring. I’d be appalled and infuriated if someone said something like that to a teenaged cousin of mine.

    Post # 11
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    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @KCKnd2:  Then I guess we’ll never be friends Wink.

    Post # 12
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    11234 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Go to the doctor and get started on birth control. That’ll help with your period.

    As for your size, don’t worry about it. I have girls size 0-26 in my wedding. I don’t care, because I love them the way they are.

    Post # 15
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    8695 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    The bride wouldnt have asked you if she cared about your size.

    Post # 16
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    8472 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @KCKnd2:  I’ll be sure to lose sleep over it tonight Cry.

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